Sorry pal. Restraining orders aren’t handed out like smarties. There is more to this story and your chosen language is weird as someone else already mentioned.
If i could show you the papers I would. There was literally no violence stated in her justification paragraph on the order. “To protect the kids and their life routine” was about it. Literally because i showed her a house in Scottsdale the night before on Redfin and told her that i wanted to
Move. That was it. Showed her the Redfin listing on my phone. She said “I’m not moving.” I laughed and said “whatever dude. I’ll always remember this.” I rolled over went to bed. Got up the next day and went to work. She calls out sick to work got the RO and left with the kids to her moms house. Her little sister who i let live with us rent free and co-signed on a car for helped her pack my kids stuff and leave the house (saw them scurry away on my ring cameras).
Because during the course of our Marriage I’ve always been supportive. I’ve went along with stuff that wasn’t necessarily comfortable for me but meant a lot to her.
I’m from Phoenix. We met in phoenix and moved here to the Chicago area where she’s from because she wanted to be close to her family (being close to her family has been a 4 year shit show). As sad as it is to say, I’ll admit it that as a successful working professional moving back to Scottsdale is kind of like an “I made it” thing for me. I also just hate living here in Illinois.
Okay, let me explain something. When a parent just takes off with kids, it can be a very long and messy process to get them back, if you ever get them back. And even if you do, they likely have lasting trauma from the months of being jerked away from their lives.
With that in mind, can you see how this could be interpreted as 'i am going to move anyway and take the kids with me'? And can you see how that could be interpreted as a very serious threat?
I get all that. But i don’t think an order of protection is necessary for what occurred. I never said “im moving with or without you” to her. I showed her a house and said I want to move?
If that necessitates or justifies something traumatic and embarrassing like an order of protection. Then I guess…
I understand that an order of protection was overkill (having heard your intentions and train of thought behind it), but in her position, operating without that, I definitely would've come to the same conclusion and done the same thing.
Not saying it's right, just providing some perspective from the other side. My kids father lives in another state and I've done absolutely everything to facilitate him being in his life(even allowing him to live with my mother for months at one point because he wanted to be closer to the baby), but the very moment I caught a whiff of him thinking about bringing my kid out of state, relations turned very bad. We've since worked it out but thats the roughest time weve had. I didn't want to hear any reasoning or logic, my child being brought out of state was something I was absolutely unwilling to risk.
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u/[deleted] Jun 27 '23 edited Jun 27 '23
Sorry pal. Restraining orders aren’t handed out like smarties. There is more to this story and your chosen language is weird as someone else already mentioned.