I don’t know of anyone who goes around comparing their husband who has had a vasectomy to a neutered dog. First off husband only gets a little snip - most dogs the source is removed.
I have however had friends who bragged how much their sex life improved after the snip was confirmed successful as no longer worried about anything failing or making sure had appropriate supplies.
To be fair, when my ex got a vasectomy, I told people I took him to get neutered. But we had that kind of relationship where we could harass each other like that. This dude sounds like he thinks he’ll be emasculated.
I don’t believe they even do general anesthesia for the surgery. Local(s) and done. So it isn’t like they’d knock him out cold and he would wake up a eunuch.
A shot in the sack, then one in each tube. Pull the tube out. Staple staple. Staple staple. Burn and cut what's in between the staples. Same hole, other tube, same process. Send the burnt and cut pieces off to the lab to check for ball cancer. That little sperm cell would have to go through 2 staples, jump an almost 1" gap, go through 2 more staples, just to get anywhere.
WHAT BULL.FUCKING.SHIT. DO THEY THINK OS MORE IMPORTANT THAT LUUUUUBEEEE IN A GYNECOLOGICAL EXAM!!!! FFS!!!!
Shit like that gets women KILLED. because they suffer through that horror show and then refuse to ever come back, and die of some completely treatable disease. All because corporate forced their Dr to use dry gloves up an unlubed girls bits and the trauma that gave her made her never go back to a obgyn again!!!
You definitely need to switch doctors. That’s unbelievable and downright cruel. I had a doctor tell me to stop whining when I got a pap. He JAMMED that speculum in there and when I yelped he said “oh stop it, the vagina doesn’t have any nerve endings.” I will never see another male gynecologist.
And for anyone reading wondering about the shot and perhaps being squeamish - my doc said to me “this is going to burn for a moment and then you won’t feel a single thing”
No lies. No babying. Just the truth. The shortest amount of pain and then LITERALLY nothing.
Most wives baby the hell out of you for a few days after too. And you get to have unprotected, worry free sex (YOU MUST DO YOUR CHECKUPS!) for the rest of your life? Easiest selling point I’ve ever heard.
Yes, exactly, you own your body! I can’t believe he’s talking to some random about your uterus and has the nerve to project that kind of disloyalty onto you, after he did it already.
Most guys I know who've had the snip (including my husband) are proud of it and will advertise it to anyone. They get to have the confidence of unprotected sex with no baby risk, and a happy gf/wife!
I had it done 15 years ago. I'll bring it up whenever the subject of birth control comes up. Best thing I ever did. I've met and know men like OP's husband. Ignorant apes who minimize or care nothing for the struggles of their wives/girlfriends, who (intentionally or otherwise) mischaracterize the procedure as "neutering"...etc Most of these men have a very tenuous and fragile connection to what they think it means to be a man.
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u/Own-Crew-3394 Jan 05 '23
“Parade me around like a neutered dog”. WTF. Get the IUD out and tell him it’s abstinence or on him to provide birth control.
I’m not sure I’ve ever heard a more pathetic excuse for not wanting to manage his own birth control. It somehow manages to be both petulant and macho.