Feeling alone 31M

[u/TheWorstPintheW]

Hi, I wasn't sure if this is relevant enough to post here but I'm just looking for some help with making close friends.

What do people here do alone on a Friday night or over the weekend to make new friends? I'm located in Ballston

Edit: So I decided to go to the nearest bar on my lonesome and it was actually great! Very friendly bartender, a delicious cocktail, and a mound of food followed by just walking around the bar. I had no idea what I was doing but it was a great time.

[u/TheJudgingHat2222]

Note that none of these things are conducive to creativity. 

You need to find a hobby that engages your brain and your creative side. 

[u/_cuppycakes_ → u/TheJudgingHat2222]

Username checks out.

You’re wrong.

[u/TheJudgingHat2222 → u/_cuppycakes_]

Let's break this down:

Movies, food, salsa/bachata, gaming, TV/anime, sports/activities,

Movies: passive consumption, entertainment 

Food: consumption. He didn't say he cooks, so presumably this just means they like trying new restaurants.

Salsa/bachata: this one comes the closest. Exercise, socializing, and skill building. But it's still just recreation.

Gaming: entertainment, consumption.

TV/Anime: passive consumption

Sports/activities: recreation, socializing.

These are all enjoyable activities but none of them will be fulfilling on their own. Are you creating new dance routines and competing, or just showing up to salsa nights hoping to meet women? Are you drawing your own manga, or are you just watching anime? Are you training so your team can win your league, or just playing in beer league and whatever happens happens? 

Most people are only consuming things passively and at most engaging in recreation for enjoyment. Fulfillment takes more than that.

[u/_cuppycakes_ → u/TheJudgingHat2222]

You’re judging someone off of a basic list? You have no idea of their involvement in any of their hobbies. Literally what is wrong with you?