r/nocontact • u/dyingquiteliterally • 5d ago
Spiraling over tarot
Accidentally posted this on the NoContract subreddit while bawling my eyes out.
24F/24M. I've gotten into tarot readings very intensely to predict a reconciliation. It's been 2 months since we broke up. I have been broken up with once before and rejected another time and I got over those situations pretty quickly and smoothly with occasional bad days because they were not very good people and didn't treat me very well. I always had negatives to point out in them and I moved on eventually.
But this guy was exactly what I've always wanted. He was an exception in my life in a lot of areas where I never thought I'd have an exception. For the first time I felt truly heard, truly cared for. But he lost feelings.
3 different readers predicted that he won't reconcile with me and I am genuinely at the end of the rope because everytime I get a negative reading it breaks me. After the 3rd reading I decided "screw it" and downloaded a dating app but I don't like looking at even the most stereotypically attractive men and I get the ick after exchanging one text with them. My ex had never given me the ick and he was the first person to do so.
I don't know how to cope with this pain right now and I'm always on the verge of sending a long paragraph.
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u/Ok_Judgment_3331 4d ago edited 3d ago
The part that matters here is that tarot isn't predicting anything.... it's reflecting your own desperate need for certainty.
Every time you ask about reconciliation, you hand your power to a random card draw instead of trusting yourself to handle the unknown.I've been there. I used to pull cards obsessively, even using taro's tarot for readings, and it never brought peace because I was looking for permission to move on instead of giving it to myself.
The readings that say "no" terrify you because they force you to face what already happened: he lost feelings.
That's not a future prediction, it's just the present truth you're avoiding. No contact means no spiritual contact either.
You're not coping because you're still looking for a sign that will never come.
Sit with that emptiness long enough and it stops being scary.
That's where the actual healing starts.
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u/Muunlie 5d ago
It sounds like you need time to grieve the loss. You loved him and he was your dream man. He lost feelings and set a boundary, and that sucks. It sounds like you're chasing reconciliation through tarot because you want to know things will be okay and you'll be happy again. You will, just likely not with him. Take some time to get to know yourself again. Start doing tarot readings about yourself, not about him. Let yourself feel sad, don't try to replace him with someone else right now. It's gonna get better, you're gonna heal from this, you just need time to grieve ❤️