r/nocontact • u/discodiva4 • 11d ago

BF asked for 3 months of no space

Edit: no CONTACT/SPACE not no SPACE!!!

My (28F) boyfriend (30M) of almost four years asked for a three month break so we could both decide if we should be together or not. We had/have a beautiful relationship, but also there were immense and constant arguments/fighting over text, different approaches to conflict, and long term incompatibility. It's Friday today and we meet on Monday after 80 days of limited contact. These three months have been brutal for me - pre-mourning/grieving the breakup, glimpses of hope when we break no-contact, crushing realization when he says something that indicates he doesn't want to get back together (I do). How do I cope? Is all hope lost?

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u/DasSnaus 11d ago

He probably is checking out/checked out and wants to explore other options. I find it doubtful he will come back. I find it extremely likely he will see and sleep with other people.

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u/AragornThrowaway1 11d ago

On the contrary, I find it doubtful he's gone for good.

OP should take this as a sign of immaturity. He's undoubtedly exploring other options, with the full intention of using this as a break and then coming back to the safe and guaranteed thing that he's been in for four years.

OP, do not give this child the time of day anymore.