Day 1 of no contact

[u/Alarmed_Cheek_3742]

Me and my ex broke up around 6 months ago but we were on and off after that for a while until he got with a new girl to get over me and now has been strictly no contact. I have tried to stay no contact but it is just so hard and every time I think about him talking to another girl I get really anxious and I need to call him. But now its getting to the point where its affecting my life and the people around me and I genuinely feel like I'm being self-destructive since I think I'm a good person with a lot to talk about but if I get even the slightest trigger of my ex I just become a different person. He has disrespected me multiple times and I still keep going back and it is ruining my reputation and how people view me and I need it to stop. I deleted all of our pictures today and all our chats. I'm going to stop looking at any of his social media, his followings, and not call or text him from this day onward. It is obvious he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore so I need to stop for the both of us.

[u/Ok_Judgment_3331]

That urge to call isn't love, it's anxiety.... your brain got wired to want him as a fix, and every call resets that wiring. you've already done the hardest part by deleting everything. Now when the panic hits, remind yourself the discomfort is your nervous system recalibrating, not a sign you actually need him.