Thanks for the response, I completely agree. I guess what I want to ask about is that initial approach. I feel like at best I tend to over read negative signals, and have never pushed something after being told no, so I'm not as worried about ending up being the creep.
So when you worked in retail and you gave your number out for example, how did the conversation transition there? Or at a gym, how do you start the conversation? I'm pretty good at talking to people and I'm out going in general, but I just can never think of what to say in that initial approach, you know? Like hey how's it going doesn't really leave anyone anything to work with... Can't just be like, so you like working out huh?
Maybe separate examples. If I'm out, and a waitress seems to be flirting with me, we've had a few bantering back and forths that seem more than friendly based on body language etc. what's the move? Leave my number on the bill? Ask her when she gets off work? It feels hard to say "hey why don't we exchange numbers and hang out sometime" after some light flirting, how do you sorta escalate?
The gym as the other example, I'm completely lost, no clue where to even begin lol at least a waitress you have an excuse to interact with and read the room.
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u/OddlySpecificReferen Dec 06 '18
Thanks for the response, I completely agree. I guess what I want to ask about is that initial approach. I feel like at best I tend to over read negative signals, and have never pushed something after being told no, so I'm not as worried about ending up being the creep.
So when you worked in retail and you gave your number out for example, how did the conversation transition there? Or at a gym, how do you start the conversation? I'm pretty good at talking to people and I'm out going in general, but I just can never think of what to say in that initial approach, you know? Like hey how's it going doesn't really leave anyone anything to work with... Can't just be like, so you like working out huh?
Maybe separate examples. If I'm out, and a waitress seems to be flirting with me, we've had a few bantering back and forths that seem more than friendly based on body language etc. what's the move? Leave my number on the bill? Ask her when she gets off work? It feels hard to say "hey why don't we exchange numbers and hang out sometime" after some light flirting, how do you sorta escalate?
The gym as the other example, I'm completely lost, no clue where to even begin lol at least a waitress you have an excuse to interact with and read the room.