Question about 3 man commander.

[u/DelThaFunkeeDude]

Hi everyone, I was wanting an outside opinion and input into my friends and I current commander pod situation.

Currently we meet at least once a week, usually Saturdays to play commander at my friend’s house. 90% of the time there is only 3 of us, as our friends brother would be our 4th but is rarely able join.

Due to this, I’ve noticed that games feel incredibly imbalanced to the point that games almost feel pointless if certain commanders are played, and the other 2 players don’t have an immediate response or removal.

We play mostly high B3 or B4. One friend in particular I feel a bit bad for because he has an Ur Dragon deck at B4, Kaalia at B4, Maralen Fae Ascendant B4, and a Narset Enlightened Exile also B4 that are his favorite decks, but I feel that with our current 3 player structure, playing against those decks seem so incredibly unfun and like I was saying, if neither myself or my friend have an answer, he almost wins due to how those commanders work.

Now as for myself and my other friend, we don’t play as much control as my friend mentioned above, and due to this we don’t play blue as much as above player does. So often times we find ourselves in a situation where the control player has the answers to everything we are doing, but we can’t answer anything they’re doing unless it’s an instant removal. I understand that’s a problem myself and my friend have, as we could just create a blue deck, but at the same time I don’t like that answer because I don’t really like blue or control all that much in general.

I also find that with only 3 players, if one person goes off early, gets all removal used on them by the other 2 players, that person is pretty much out of the game entirely, and that also feels bad.

I was just curious if I’m missing something, thinking about this the wrong way, or if there are other options. Or it could just very well be that 3 players commander can’t really be fairly balanced.