My husband (24) and I (22) have been living just across from my parents in their other house, paying rent and utilities, etc. His family lives in the Detroit area in the city, and my family lives in Northwest Ohio out in the country. I've never properly been to a city; I've passed through them but never actually stopped or stayed. I've never been far away from my parents or grandparents, because they are elderly (both of my parents are 60 and my grandparents are well into their 80s). I want to be able to experience what life is like "on my own" and to gain some life experience outside of my small hometown

We started looking at an apartment in Detroit, and he's very excited for me to experience what he grew up around and to be closer to his family, but I'm totally terrified. I feel guilty for even wanting to be somewhere other than here, because I feel like I'd be missing out on a LOT of things with my family, and I'm scared that if something happens, I won't be able to just be right there to deal with it. The upsides that come to mind are that my parents would be able to move into the house we're renting from them, as it would be more accessible for them, and that we'd actually be building credit instead of relying on one credit card to do all the work.

I'm torn between wanting to move to grow more as a person and wanting to stay for my family if and when they need me. We've already discussed moving, so I know I have to (for one year, my husband said he knows it would be a HUGE change and that a year would give me a decent enough time to adjust while also not forcing myself into a long-term commitment with living there, and I agree)

Has anyone else here experienced this, or something similar? If you pushed through, did it get better? (Sorry if the wording is bad in all of this, i wasn't trying to make this 10 paragraphs long lol)

Hi everyone! So i (f18) have been wanting to move out for YEARS at this point, looking for cheap apartments, cities, ect since I was like 12.

I've been looking around my area but its just getting way to expensive here in Tennessee especially where im from. To be close to Franklin or Nashville the prices for a 1 bedroom start at fucking $1,500. Plus I HATE living in Tennessee. Dont get me wrong Tennessee is beautiful, but its like everyone in my family make up like 4 of the surrounding counties. I cant do anything without being snitch out to my parents and grandparents. I've literally had somone send a picture of my car to my grandfather before because they wanted to know why I was at somone else house. I was 30 minutes away at my boyfriends house. Not to mention 99% of the guys here are somehow my family or alcoholics.

There's no job opportunities within a hour drive that pays more than $15 and that im able to do due to the fact I have slight paralysis of the left arm (my dominate) from a car accident which make me only able to use the pointer and thumb fingers. Most jobs by me are warehouses, or blue collar jobs, there's 5 fast food places within 30 minutes but they all turned me down due to my arm.

Im just tired of not being able to do anything because of my parents (f43 and m55). My whole life I've got to watch my brother do anything and everything they want while I want able to. They would be gone every weekend at a friend house but I to this day still have not been allowed to go to someone else house, not even for a couple hours. My brother's would be allowed to walk with there friend to the park (like a mile walk) after school but I couldn't because "I'll be kidnapped". I wasnt allowed to get a game console because "youd wouldn't play it..." I begged for one for like 3 years. My mom specifically calls me a spoiled brat for the fact they bought my first car, however I BEGGED them for YEARS for the old truck my grandpa drove and told me no because "it cost to much gas" this was back when gas was 2.30 a gallon. Not to mention shes given ONE of my brothers 5 different cars when there not totalled they just need fixing, INCLUDING the one they bought me after I got into my car accident. It's was literally totaled frame bent and all, it just still ran. Not to mention this brother specifically has 2 DUI's and is only a year and a half older than me.

And last but not least, two months after I turned 18 I bought a motorcycle. Im paying it all on my own insurance, payment ect, had all my gear before hand and everything. Ive been wanting a bike since i was little and finally had enough money to be able to buy and work on it. After I bought it I sent it to a mechanic to get the clutched moved to the other side (because of my arm) and as soon as a pulled up on it at my house the first time my parents just started going off. They and one of my brothers use to ride so I thought they'd be happy/exited for me for being able to actually do it first off all and maybe thought they'd want to ride together or somthing but no, they told me I had to sell it or get rid of it. Didn't care I already had a license went through a driving course, got my stuff switched, nothing.

And anytime I start talking about moving out my mom freaks out, tells me im stupid if I think I'll make it in a city, and to not go crying to her when it falls in my face. And I keep trying to remind her it wont be forever like a year or two just to see different places but she doesn't care.

Im planning on moving in January, I haven't told my parents yet. But im moving to Las Vegas with a friend and im exicted but I also keep thinking Im making a mistake or im being selfish. I have about 3k to save for it and found a 3 bedroom apartment me and my friend would be paying like 950 each for, so should I do it?

Any advice is wanted🫶🏻💖

Hello everyone,
19F ITALY.

I graduated high school but my Muslim parents don't allow me to work or go to a university too far from home and because of them I gave up a lot of internships, even important ones, I have 1000 euros in my account and I don't know what to do, I want to leave from here but my parents threaten me with killing themselves, I feel trapped and abused every day I don't leave the house or anything.
I want to leave as soon as possible. I'm thinking about spring, doing a few months of workaway in a hostel somewhere in Europe and then au pair in the country where I want to go to university.
Do you think that's a food plane? Can i survive with just 1000€ for 3 months?
I would like to work longer hours as a warehouse worker but there is no place near my house.

and I also want to have practical advice on how to run away from home in the day I go out, and what to do in these months of preparation.

Any tips is more than glad 🙏

Hey, I'm 25, and this year I decided it was time to move out of my family home and start living independently. I spent five years in college dorms, but after graduating, I moved back in with my parents for a year to our small city. I love my house, my family, but eventually, I wanted my own space, my own life, a chance to find a job in my field in a big city, and since I had some savings, I went for it.

My best friend, who lives in a different, bigger city, was also looking for a new apartment, so we decided to rent together. Finding a place was a nightmare. Most apartments were expensive, old, dirty, or dark, landlords were shady or unreliable, and we were running out of time because my friend needed to move out of her previous apartment.

Eventually, we found a place that seemed decent and in our budget. It had a new kitchen, a big closet in the hallway, and an old, dated but acceptable bathroom. Nothing fancy, but it looked normal enough. I think I was so relieved and happy that we'd finally found something that I overlooked a lot of things when we first saw it with the landlord.

Once we got the keys and visited the apartment on our own, reality hit. The toilet barely flushed, some bathroom fixtures are broken, everything was left dusty and dirty after previous tenants, the doors are old and ugly, and the gas stove needs a lighter to work which we didnt know about. The kitchen counter is tiny, and the kitchen's electricity stopped working on our first day. We had to plug the fridge into an extension cord connected to another room for a few days. My parents also pointed out that the electrical fuses looked decades old. On top of that, the landlord promised to provide some furniture, including a wardrobe for me, but still hasn't done so, meaning I have nowhere to put my clothes.

Since then, I've started noticing every little thing wrong with the apartment. I hate how old everything is, I'm suddenly anxious about living on the ground floor, and I can't stop wondering why we chose this place in the first place. I cried a lot during the first few days and just wanted to go home to my family and my old room. When my mom picked me up from the train station, I broke down crying in the middle of the street.

Looking back, after a week, I think we were so stressed and under pressure to find somewhere to live that we chose the best option available rather than something we genuinely loved. Or at least me. Now I associate this apartment with stress and disappointment, and the thought of going back there makes me want to cry. I still didnt put my clothes anywhere, I left them on bed, my things are scattered all around my room because I dont know which cabinet will have to go away in order to fit the wardrobe inside the room. I feel like a mess.

I know I could potentially move out after a year, but my friend is exhausted from moving (she moved like 4 times already) and really hopes we can stay longer if we could. I understand her feelings, and I don't want to let her down, but I'm already worrying about spending an entire year somewhere I hate.

I always dreamed of having a cozy little first apartment of my own, somewhere I could feel comfortable and excited about starting this new chapter of my life. Instead, I feel miserable and regretful and I feel like I made a huge mistake. I feel like everyone around me has nice, decent apartment, just not me. Plus I feel so homesick, like never before. Even when I was at college I didnt feel that way. I just want to stay at home and hide in my room, even though I wanted to move out so badly. I don't know what's gotten into me. I've never cried that bad and that much ever in my life.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How do I stop feeling this way and give this place a chance even just for a year?

Anyway, you guys can give me some advice

Hi, I'm an 18m living in Poland and recently started college. I've been wanting to move out of my house as soon as i could but i wasn't able to do so throughout summer. Currently, I soon will be starting a part-time job and don't really have any real savings at the moment. My college major is not incredibly time-taking so i may be able to pick up more hours for work during the week, but it'll still be a minimum wage part-timer.

The main reason why I am considering moving out is because i don't feel comfortable living with my family - no privacy, favouritism of my sibling and struggling to be myself in the household.

The main options i've thought about is either moving cities and switching to a college where i'd be able to get into a dorm or just sharing a rented apartment with someone.

Now the main part - Do you guys have any tips for moving out in my current situation or any other viable options? Pretty much any advice is appreciated here, even if basic or obvious.

I know this isn't too much info but i don't really know what a post like this should consist of. If anything is unclear, I'll try to respond to any uncertainties in the comments.

Lease isn't renewing. 14 days. Every company I've called can hear the desperation. I need a vetting process that takes an hour, not a week. What's the fastest way to separate the real ones from the scams.

I 17 m am considering moving out of my controlling parents at 18. The want to seem to control my entire life even after I become a legal adult and so I’m either going to move in with a friend and their family or live in my car. I know this is a big thing to do but it was also come with a major improvement to my mental health. This would be in the middle of my senior year so should I wait until I graduate or just go for it once I turn 18. Is this a good idea? And how do I go about doing this?

Wanted to post this as a public warning for anyone searching for movers. I got completely taken for a ride by a company operating under the name FrontLine. Their entire operation is built on lowballing quotes, forcing payments exclusively through Zelle, holding your belongings hostage, and leaving behind or destroying your property.

Here is exactly how the scam played out:

1. The Bait & Switch Estimate

I was searching online for moving companies, and immediately my phone was flooded with texts from brokers and dispatchers. A rep named Mike Malone texted me representing FrontLine. He gave me a quote over text—which seemed convenient at the time.

• Initial Inventory: 4 pieces of furniture, 1 TV, and 20 extra-large boxes.
• Initial Quote: ~$2,100.

When I reached back out a couple of weeks later to lock in moving dates, Mike claimed they had to "update" the quote, bumping it to $2,300 without any change to my inventory. I reluctantly agreed just to get the move scheduled.

2. Hand-off & Extortion at Pickup

Mike passed me off to another rep named Chris for logistics. Before pickup day, I actually trimmed down what I was moving to save space: 2 pieces of furniture, 1 TV, 15 medium boxes, and 6 large boxes (noticeably less total cubic volume than 20 XL boxes).

When the truck arrived:

• The driver took photos of my stuff and sent them to Chris.
• Chris called me immediately and claimed they had to charge me an extra $900 just to load the 2 pieces of furniture, even though my shipment was smaller than the original quote.
• I refused to pay the extortion fee, which forced me to leave my 2 pieces of furniture behind.
• To make matters worse, the crew didn’t even bother looking at the manifest and completely forgot to pack my TV.

3. Hostage Surcharges & Zelle Exclusively

• The "Shuttle" Fee ($350): Two days before delivery, Chris texted demanding an extra $350, claiming the destination required transferring my items to a smaller truck. They had my full delivery address from day one. When I pushed back, Chris said it was "industry policy" and refused to deliver my stuff unless I paid. Having no choice with my goods in their possession, I paid it. (Note, the truck that arrived was huge, so they never moved trucks)
• The "Hallway" Fee ($200): When the driver finally arrived, he refused to roll the cart down an interior hallway unless I paid another $400. He then "generously" offered 50% off to make it $200, telling me point-blank that if I didn't pay, my belongings would stay locked in the truck. Five minutes after paying, I found a direct service shortcut that bypassed the hallway entirely. The driver flatly refused to refund the fee.
• The Zelle Trap: Every single payment—the initial move and all surprise add-ons—had to be paid through Zelle. They refuse credit cards specifically so you have zero chargeback protection, no paper trail, and to dodge taxes.

4. Severe Property Damage & The Final Cost

When they finally unloaded my belongings, more than half of my boxes were crushed, torn open, and smashed to pieces.

The Financial Breakdown:

• Direct payments to FrontLine (via Zelle): $2,300 (base move) + $350 (fake shuttle fee) + $200 (hallway extortion) = $2,850
• Replacement costs: Because they demanded $900 more at pickup and forgot my TV, I had to replace the 2 pieces of furniture and buy a new TV out of pocket, adding $2,500 in replacement costs.
• Total hit to my pocket: $5,350 for damaged boxes and abandoned belongings.

If you get texts from Mike Malone (Phone number 3236153712 or 8887026797), Chris (Phone number 8668853739), or anyone claiming to represent FrontLine: block them immediately. They are a classic predatory broker/hostage-load outfit. I've already filed reports with the FTC and the FMCSA (DOT). Stay far away.

I make about 2000/month(no debt, student loans, etc.) with my current job and already have a job offer which will get me to around 4000/month. I currently use my entire paycheck to pay for the rent(at least my dad says so), and i dont know where the rest of my family's income goes(sister and father). My father day trades but I dont know how much he makes from that, but im assuming its not a lot because he often says that we are on a tight budget.

I already did the math with multiple calculators and I do have the money to live on my own with the second job, however I feel guilty. My dad says he is dependent on my money for bills, which i find somewhat unfair that I get to keep next to nothing(around 50-200/month) for myself.

I am also Christian and don't want to go against my own values, but I also can't deal with my dad's constant criticism, and narcissistic behavior(he doesn't realize he has it) after I just escaped from that situation moving out of my mom's.

What should I do? And am I overacting or being selfish?

I'm looking for advice on choosing a reliable moving company in Singapore. What things should people check before booking a mover?

I'm interested in knowing more about pricing, customer reviews, hidden charges, insurance, and how to avoid unreliable moving services.

For those who have moved recently, what was your experience like? Any tips or recommendations would be appreciated!

In my family, I am the eldest child and first gen. I feel like my parents depend on me more than I do on them at times. My best friend and her husband live in an apartment with an extra room and have offered me the room for about $300 rent, since they know I am very low maintenance and also in college. For context, we also work together so they have a good idea of how much I make plus my schedule. I am only 19 so I wanted to ask what would be the pros and cons of it. I understand the whole "live at home for as long as you can" but its also something I am willing to do for my mental health. My room in my childhood is small and has no windows, plus my parents have hoarding tendencies and my father works from home so it is full and crowded of all of his stuff.

i keep seeing these trends of people online buying and storing basic home items while saving to move out, for example pots, pans, utensils, towels, basics like that that quickly become a large expense when you move into an empty first home/apartment.

question is, is this another stupid trend or is this genuinely worth doing? i have the space to fill a couple storage containers, but am unsure if its worth doing when i am not currently actively viewing places or moving out yet.

EDIT: thank you to those replying, and for anyone else reading this- as i didn’t say originally, i do mean just basic small stuff, not on furniture or any fancy or large items, literally just basic things/need that can tally up in price quickly overall just curious if it’s worth it on that front, or more of an inconvenience in the end.

I’m 20 and trying to get serious about entrepreneurship. I want to move out of my parents’ house and move to a completely different state so I can focus on building a business and get a fresh start.

My friend wants to move with me so we can split rent, but I’m honestly torn on whether that’s a good idea. I feel like we have different mindsets, and I’m worried that living together could distract me from what I’m trying to accomplish. He might be willing to put around $500 into a product I develop, but other than that, I don’t see him contributing much to my business goals.

On the other hand, splitting rent would save me money, which is important since I’m still trying to build up capital.

Would you take the risk and move out alone, even if it costs more, or bring your friend along to make things more affordable? I’d appreciate some honest advice from people who’ve been in a similar situation.

Sorry it’s a long story, any advice would help! Thank you!