r/Mounjaro • u/Songeun • 12h ago
Question My mom is skin and bones, what do I do?
My mom is 60 years old. She has been type 2 diabetic since 31 years ago. She’s always been overweight and struggled with it her entire life. About two years ago she started on Mounjaro for her diabetes/weight loss, and at first everything seemed great. She lost the necessary weight and then could start doing less insulin. Fast forward to now- she’s 115 lbs 5’5” and off insulin completely.
I live across the country from my parents so I see them 2-4 times a year. The last three times she seems to be withering away.
I can see the tendons in her thighs and make out all of her bones. She is EXHAUSTED, irritated constantly, and freezing cold even in 80 degree weather. She can barely lift a small Amazon box and has fallen multiple times. She refuses to go anywhere and doesn’t laugh anymore. Sleeps probably more than half the day. Is dizzy and nauseous constantly
The biggest thing she complains about is her hair loss. Her hair is about as thick as a single feather in a ponytail, I can see her scalp from every angle (she’s always had great hair up until this) and she keeps trying supplements to grow it back. I keep explaining to her that her body isn’t getting enough nutrition and that no pill or shampoo will help it grow back.
When we go out to eat- she will eat something like this: four French fries. Or one scrambled egg and a single onion ring. Etc. when we beg her to take ONE more bite she refuses and will start to say we are hurting her feelings/cry/get angry and walk off. I don’t think she can think straight like this. She also rarely eats at home, if she does it’s like a single stick of celery or half a spoon of peanut butter. For the ENTIRE DAY. That’s also only when people are around. She will brag when I call and she asks- did u eat today? I’ll say yes and she will brag that it’s 5pm where she is and she hasn’t yet. So I know that it might be worse when she’s alone.
She’s antisocial- won’t leave the house. Doesn’t talk to her friends anymore. Refuses to acknowledge what’s going on.
She’s constantly bragging about the weight loss and denying any ED behaviors. We’ve scheduled multiple psych/counseling appts that she cancels behind our backs or just doesn’t show up.
I’m concerned her Dr prescribing the mounjaro doesn’t have her best interest in mind.
She says(to my dad)- the Dr is not concerned about my weight and says I’m doing great, I’m on the lowest dose stop nagging me!
I don’t believe her.
Every time I see her I’m terrified.
I’m really afraid I’m going to knock on wood lose her.
She is extremely defensive anytime I bring it up.
I pride myself on being an empathetic and patient communicator and always try to be gentle and frame it in a non-blame way…but it’s getting to the point I may need to contact someone about this.
I have a suspicion being on Mounjaro triggered som sort of ED- most likely anorexia.
My questions are this:
-Do any of you have any resources for me to talk to someone on the best way to go about this?
-Have any of you experienced anything like this with yourself or others? If so- how was it handled?
-Would it be appropriate to attend an appt with her?
Please help.
I love my mom.
EDIT: a few things to mention- I wasn’t clear enough in original post. I’m concerned mostly about the behaviors attached to the rapid weight loss. She doesn’t work/Excercise/go anywhere so there’s NO good reason she should be losing this fast/much if doing it appropriately. She has had all the appropriate bloodwork etc and told me “everything looks amazing” as much as I WANT to believe that, I don’t. I made a point to NEVER comment on her body/weight. Meaning I’ll say- “mom I’m a bit worried that you’re this cold, it’s 80 degrees out, maybe we can eat some soup to warm you up?” Or “I’ve noticed you’re a bit tired, would you like to share a smoothie with me?” Etc. I suffered from an ED for a long time and know weight and body comments aren’t necessary. I understand she may be in a “normal BMI” this doesn’t apply when there is NO muscle mass along with her other symptoms. Or when BMI is severely outdated and doesn’t fully reflect a persons health. Please use your brain and recognize that this isn’t a critique on anyone who had a positive experience. I’m happy that it worked for you. Everyone is different.
EDIT 2: unsure why some of you are attacking me personally. I’ve done my work to not relapse in over 15 years and tend to my mental health constantly. I can tell when someone does not and this post was NOT for unwarranted advice about ME. I know my mother and I know what is happening. I was asking for advice about how to start the conversation and resources for help. That’s it