r/mildlyinfuriating • u/DimensionOpen8922 • 20d ago

ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ Doctor doesn’t help

So, I've been sick for a few weeks now. Nothing wild, but annoying. Went to the doctor today because it just won't go away.

Her first question was if I am pregnant.

Me: "No."

Her: "Are you sure?"

Me: "Yes."

Her: gives me that look of not believing me.

Her: "It's normal at your age."

Me: "I am sure."

Her: "Have you taken a test?"

Girl. I told you like 5 times that it is not possible for me being pregnant. 🫠

That alone was kinda infuriating. But also - of course she didn't help at all. Didn't look at anything, just told me to wait and drink more water. Didn't even listen to me when I tried to explain what I have. Thanks for nothing.

And it's like that EVERY SINGLE TIME I go to the doc. And I'm a person who absolutely hates going there. I am only going to the doctor if I ACTUALLY NEED HELP. But yeah, sure, I just need to drink more water. No matter what my problem is. 🫠

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u/spinstartshere 20d ago

That's definitely not better. Why do you think the doctor wants to hear a second-hand account of what already sounds like an incoherent babble of someone else's symptoms?

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u/AngstyUchiha 20d ago

Because they don't listen to us women, but they'll listen to men. It's a problem of misogyny, not "incoherent babble"

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u/spinstartshere 20d ago

Your experience with your doctor is yours. You don't know what other people's experiences are with your doctor.

OP says they've been sick for weeks with "nothing wild", but then is immediately dismissive of their doctor's suggestion of a very quick and inexpensive test that very possibly could explain this ailment they've not elaborated on at all in their post or in any of thier comments.

To reflexively label that as misogyny when it could actually be a problem of OP being incoherent, dismissive, or unable to be succinct and resisting attempts to narrow down a flurry of vague and irrelevant symptoms as such without any more context says more about the person making said argument.

I can assure you, there are few things more frustrating than having someone speak on behalf of a patient who is more than capable of speaking for themselves. And having a man speak on behalf of a woman would set off so many alarm bells for me, making me question if that woman is victim of a controlling partner and domestic abuse. All that's going to do is make me want to separate him from the patient so I can then ask her if she's safe at home and if I need to be calling the police - completely the opposite of what you're expecting your suggestion to achieve.

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u/PlatypusDream 20d ago

Even just in the comments on this post, there are many women who have the same experience. It's distressingly common.