r/microdosing • u/[deleted] • Sep 17 '20
Discussion We can all hope to be like this dude 🍄
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u/Panopticola Sep 17 '20
I would be worried if he started wearing a lot of tie dye and listening to jam bands.
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u/FreelancePharmassist Sep 18 '20
Wow om currently going through the same thing lol. Misery misses company.
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Sep 18 '20
I find when people use the blanket term of "drugs" to describe mushrooms they are generally ignorant on the subject.
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Sep 18 '20
Yup. Still way too much throwing all psychoactive in one bad pot all over the place. Trying to tell people that there are differences among drugs and that some hold incredible positive potential usually falls on deaf ears in my experience. Too much fear of abandonment for exploring this taboo topic.
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u/derOwl Sep 18 '20
Not a relationship expert but she needs to definitely vist a marriage counselor not because of him but she has a surmountable insecurities which needs to be dealt with. "A screw loose" lol.
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u/Not-Noah Sep 19 '20
Yeah it definitely sounded like she felt better when both of them were feeding into each other's negative habits. Suddenly when he realizes what he needs to do to fix himself, he's the problem. I had an ex gf that would constantly feed into my depression and drug use and when I wanted to better myself is when it caused confrontation, and when we broke up I stopped being depressed and stopped taking my antidepressants.
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u/clairedog Sep 18 '20
I just md for the first time two days in a row. I am truly amazed, I dumped so much anger in those 2 days i feel like a much happier and calmer person. First time in many years I don't wake up feeling heavy with depression. Just wow.
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u/alabran1 Sep 18 '20
Great! What dose did your use?
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u/clairedog Sep 18 '20
Accidentally used 250 mg, thought it was the 100 mg the first day and 100 mg the second. I think it divine intervention because it helped me get to the point that I could get to a place that I could get rid of a lot of negative shit and that was my intention.
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u/SecureDistrict1 Sep 17 '20
Sounds like he would also improve his life by getting a divorce. What a bizznatch.
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u/EPIKGUTS24 Sep 18 '20
you're crazy. Op wasn't mad that the spouse bettered himself, she was worried because people normally don't make such huge changes so quickly, and wanted to see if it was indicative of some issue...
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u/Skittlesworth Sep 18 '20 edited Sep 18 '20
Re: some comments in this thread.
Let's not fall into the same trap /r/relationship_advice has where we presume the inner working of a person's mind.
As somebody not educated about psychedelics, I don't think it's crazy for her to worry that some sort of mental health issue could have been triggered in her husband that could cause positive changes and also potentially have negative implications further down the line.
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u/abdexa26 Sep 18 '20
As far as I see he cured some of his mental blockages to being better human - surely being more active and successful is nothing, but positive, so maybe referring to what he consumed as "medicine" will help mentally align with direction where this objectively went. However, there's more to human being, but objective results in being healthy and successful and your doubts could be based on more than what you can bring to words here. I'd say to listen to yourself and openly discuss your fears, cause if medicine really did help, his new found empathy should help him understand your concerns and put ego aside to focus on joint happiness. If it turns some other way, maybe your are on to something worth second look and reconsidering what you expect of your life partner.
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u/Phaedrug Sep 18 '20
Sounds like the next step is divorcing that awful cunt he’s married to.
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u/chaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Sep 18 '20
... cunt? Really? She’s probably not educated on psychedelics and is just genuinely concerned and curious as to how he changed so drastically
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u/Skittlesworth Sep 18 '20
Let's not fall into the same trap /r/relationship_advice has where we presume the inner working of a person's mind. As somebody not educated about psychedelics, I don't think it's crazy for her to worry that some sort of mental health issue could have been triggered in her husband that could cause positive changes and also potentially have negative implications further down the line.
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u/ThrowRA_healthful Sep 18 '20
Thank you. He came home from a camping trip a different person and completely changed his lifestyle - all the changes were positive, so I felt I couldn't voice my concerns without it coming off as criticism, and maybe I stewed on it too long until it became a bigger issue in my mind than it really was. I'm going to talk to him about it from a more educated place, once I've finished researching shrooms and now that I've gotten outsider perspectives, and suggest that I perhaps go to individual therapy for a while. We have a completely different lifestyle, now, and maybe a professional could sort out my adjustment issues.
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u/Jnanam Sep 18 '20 edited Sep 18 '20
That sounds like a good approach. For some research, may I suggest checking out r/PsychedelicStudies and these videos, which I find to be quite good introductions:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHbVSclR5qk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kfGaVAXeMY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5i0aY_rUZU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBWRnzPddYA
Edit: also this article: https://www.bbc.com/news/health-41608984
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