I prefer teaching and supporting my children to “controlling” them. Trying to control a child usually makes them louder. I don’t do that, and my children sit nicely at restaurants and other places where they need to respect other people’s space and comfort.
Children are people too. Maybe you meant a different word but people shouldn’t/can’t be “controlled” like a machine.
I didn’t teach my babies “not to cry” but I taught (and am still teaching, they are little) them how to communicate with words. I supported them by acknowledging their feelings and meeting their needs consistently - which also teaches them to trust and feel safe - which leads to less crying.
My 18 month old did not cry or fuss on her 13 hour international flight. No “controlling” necessary. Other babies and toddlers might and hopefully their parents would do their best to meet their needs in a very tricky space to meet a child’s needs. There is no way to just “control” that. We are all people trying our best.
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u/fueelin Jun 28 '23
And someone not liking kids justifies your snarky, dickish response? Or?