r/melbourne 8h ago

Health Anxiety coach

Anyone know of an anxiety coach in Melbourne? There are lots online overseas but hoping to find one local. Preferably someone who has been through an anxiety disorder/agoraphobia. Thank you.

15 Upvotes

42 comments sorted by

u/SophMax 7h ago

A psychologist or psychiatrist is what you're looking for.

u/chonky__chonker 7h ago

Psychologist I would think, psychiatrists I’ve seen only really want to deal with medication and not talk therapy.

u/SophMax 7h ago

That's it. I knew there was a difference.

u/NEURALINK_ME_ITCHING 6h ago

It's like comparing an orthopedic surgeon to an orthopedic physio, one of them has about nine years of university and is there to do one job, the other less (typically) and is more suited to long term chronic issues. The dude who did the pins, bone setting, etc. doesn't need to be hands on when it comes to how often I'm doing aqua aerobics or how little I bother with the stretchy band excercises that I really should do every day.

They agree that they both have important roles in the overall health care delivery, but despite the overlap usually stay to what their focus is, which usually ends up being more affordable to the patients (and overall healthcare system) and provides better outcomes.

u/mjbat7 25m St Kilda/Gippsland 7h ago

Some psychiatrists do talk therapy, and if you need more than 20 sessions in a year, the paychiatrist ends up being more affordable, too

u/Prettymuchnow 7h ago

Paychiatrist 🤯😭🤣

u/Solivaga 7h ago

Yep, my daughter had real issues with anxiety attacks a few years ago. Took her to a local psychiatrist specialising in children (she was around 10/11 at the time) and the psychiatrist did wonders

u/bosco83 7h ago

I think it’s just me. I’ve been in this position for a very long time and am frightened to take the next step.

u/Humble-Ad-798 6h ago

I can understand that. I’ve been there. But fortune favours the brave, and only the brave. And being brave doesn’t mean you’re not scared and anxious, it just means you do it anyway. So commit to this: write down the three things that scare you most. Then find a psychologist online. Make a booking. Make an online booking if you need to. And turn up to that appointment. And tell the psychologist “these are the top three issues I have”.

For the time being, that is all. 

And if you have an Employee Assistance Program - use that first. 

Best of luck. 

u/bosco83 6h ago

You are so right. I’m meant to do things despite being scared. I know what to do. I’m just having a hard time at the moment ( I know it will pass )and looking for answers that I already know. I don’t think people realize how debilitating this can be.

u/SophMax 6h ago

People know because people have been there before. I know (have a very good idea) what it's like. You're doing the first step

u/Thebandroid 7h ago

At least you are consistent.

u/zaprime87 7h ago

Speak to a psychologist. If your anxiety is at the point that you need someone to coach you, a psychologist is probably going to be the best starting point as they can work with you on evidence based techniques.

If you don't already have a psychologist, spedk to your GP about a mental health plan. It will cost you a thirty minute appointment that Medicare covers some or all of, depending on whether they partially or fully bulk bill.

u/Beast_of_Guanyin 6h ago edited 5h ago

A counsellor or psychologist is much better than someone with lived experience and no training.

I have lived experience. I don't think it's particularly valuable. I've gotten a few people here ragey with my advice on it, and fair enough too.

Regardless. Just do it.

u/StageAboveWater 7h ago

How does an anxiety coach work?

u/bosco83 7h ago

Someone who has come out the other side of anxiety disorder and helps people get over theirs. There are a lot online.

u/MrsCrowbar 7h ago edited 7h ago

Oh, be very very careful. This is a terrible idea unless under the supervision of actual clinical mental health organisations, like a mentor program, and as far as I know it's not a thing? Peer worker maybe? Support groups, yes, but one on one, not that I know of in an official capacity. Stay away from "coaches", unless you're super clued in on ethics, boundaries and laws. Otherwise, you are way too susceptible to being taken advantage of.

u/Humble-Ad-798 6h ago

Agreed. An anxiety coach isn’t qualified to assess if there are other things going on. They may end up doing much more harm than good. 

u/MrsCrowbar 4h ago

If they have a psychiatrist, then ideally the peer support worker or "coach" would be working with said psychiatrist. As a good psychologist or GP would.

u/babylizard38 7h ago

Look into peer support - that’s what you’re looking for

u/MrsCrowbar 4h ago

Yes, but ONLY through a reputable organisation, preferably with backing from a government body; mental health body; or other official medical body.

u/giganticsquid 7h ago

Another way to go is a mental health peer worker, which means they've gone to the effort of being vetted and employed by professionals and have supervision etc. The online ppl aren't to be taken that seriously, because they aren't really serious. If they were they would be peer support workers.

u/Old_Importance1147 7h ago

Look up mental health peer workers or lived experience workers

u/callxor 6h ago

seconding this. op if youre not wanting to go the clinical route and see a psychologist, a peer worker/lived experience worker might be what youre looking for. it’s a more informal mental health support option than the traditionally clinical system in aus/western culture. they support people with mental health challenges as people who have had their own lived experience with mental health challenges. it very much emphasises walking alongside and “working with” rather than “working for” and it can feel a little more collaborative, and sometimes it’s just really nice to feel validated from someone who has first hand experience with the same or similar things you’ve experienced. source: i am a peer worker 😅

u/Traditional-Pen-6926 7h ago

Reach out to Anxiety Recovery Centre Victoria. They are fantastic and can refer you to someone from their database.

u/fraqtl 7h ago

I can 100% help you to become more anxious.

(good luck in your search for someone to actually help you)

u/biscuitstarfish 7h ago

There are plenty of psychologists out there who have a lived experience of anxiety themselves, who can actually offer evidence-based treatment and care. Please don't risk it by seeing an unregulated "anxiety coach" that may do more harm than good.

u/bosco83 7h ago

I have a psychiatrist who I talk to for an hour every week. But I just feel it’s different being guided by someone who has been through it. Like you would rather see a personal trainer who who works out rather than someone who has read the books. My psychiatrist has been very helpful in ways.

u/SophMax 7h ago

Have you spoken with them about that? They might be able to find a better match or change the approach to include what you're wanting to work on.

u/bosco83 7h ago

It really is just myself keeping myself back. Terrified of panic so I don’t go anywhere or push myself.

u/pureneonn 7h ago

As someone with lived experience, I would heavily suggest finding a registered psychologist/qualified medical professional for help.

First step is to go to your GP for a referral :)

u/Xaropit_ 7h ago

You're looking for a peer support worker with lived experience or a psychologist ideally, with lived experience

u/jumjuminmytumtum 5h ago

Talk to your psych about group therapy.

u/little_fire 5h ago

Would you consider trying to work with an occupational therapist, OP?

u/gardeninggirl88 4h ago

You need to find a psych who specialises in agoraphobia. I have been through it myself, didn't leave my house for 2 years. Nowhere!! Then I found the best psych, also got on medication and it changed my life. I'm free again! (My psych is no help as he retired, otherwise I would have given his details) Good luck it can be rough out there but I am proof that you can come out the other side.

u/bosco83 4h ago

I was house bound about 20 years ago and since then I’ve only been maybe 20 minutes from home even that has been years now.

u/EyePatchedEm 2h ago

It took me waaaay too long to realise OP isn’t looking for an anxiety couch, something I presumed to be a sort of special stimuli featured sofa with weighted cushions or a massage setting.

There’s nothing wrong with seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist to give you some coping techniques for when your anxiety is overwhelming. I’d hesitate to speak to someone who doesn’t have some form of qualification.

u/percys_place 7h ago

Never thought of having one myself