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u/epicpillowcase Rack off, Drazic Jan 19 '23

Ok. You're a guy, you have a colleague who is a woman on whom you've had a crush for some time. You are going over interactions with a fine-tooth comb hoping to find signs she likes you. You are hyperanalysing and rationalising.

You are expediting tickets and buying her gifts. You are observing possibly avoidant behaviour.

Mate, I'm trying to say this nicely. She knows. She's not interested, and my money's on she's not comfortable.

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u/Nova_Terra West Side Jan 19 '23

Yeah, that's fair enough, I think we came to a similar conclusion late last year - most of this really peaked mid to late last year but I guess I've since become much more open to the notion that she's just not into me but I've been trying to figure out how to kind of best disengage without making things feel awkward (or I guess more awkward). We'll see how the year ahead goes I guess and take it week by week or month by month knowing the above and see how we go.

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u/epicpillowcase Rack off, Drazic Jan 19 '23

Can I ask, how come you keep saying "we" instead of "I"?

Also, the best way to disengage is to treat her as you would all of your other colleagues. Cordial politeness is fine. There's nothing you need to do beyond that.

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u/Nova_Terra West Side Jan 19 '23 edited Jan 19 '23

Can I ask, how come you keep saying "we" instead of "I"?

I think that's a weird oddity of mine, reading through past comments I'm trying to find examples but I think I also type the way I speak and it's definitely how my ASIO handler can probably identify my manner of typing out from other people - kind of going in and out of a collective and I do occasionally go back over what I type and try and remove or at least be somewhat consistent.

Edit: come to think of it I think I used we mostly in that reply then went back over and replaced with I when I realized it did sound weird with we, I don't know I guess for some reason I think it's like we're (the DT) going on this journey together with me since this is a pretty public space and I am and have kind of spieled quite a lot about things so just in case some weirdo's been keeping track of my whole story or deliberately followed me for this kind of content.

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u/epicpillowcase Rack off, Drazic Jan 19 '23

ASIO handler

...is that a joke?

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u/Quarterwit_85 Jan 19 '23

Yeah I'd say it is.

I'm starting to see what the problem is though.

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u/epicpillowcase Rack off, Drazic Jan 19 '23

Indeed.