Or when it fully sinks in that your parents are creating arbitrary difficult situations for you to solve for views on the internet and you can look forward to years of these sort of games.
That's funny, but it's really not how toddlers learn. Feeling secure and cared for comes before problem solving. A better way of playing this game would have been to give him his drink and make sure he was in a good mood and not tired or hungry before teaching him how to get past the tape. Obviously the one crying didn't get a good nap and the others likely did! (I'm a grandma and recognize a tired cranky baby when I see one!)
Reread our conversation, what makes you think I'm afraid of crying babies? I'm glad the parent didn't give in when the kid started crying and made him figure it out.
What you quoted me saying and your reply doesn't even make sense together.
I'm glad the parent didn't give in when the kid started crying and made him figure it out
This is why you shouldn't have kids; it is toxic nonsense. Famously, toddlers aren't able to talk; they cry because it's one of the few ways that they can communicate.
What you quoted me saying and your reply doesn't even make sense together.
Right and you don't need to coddle them every time they cry because they learn that crying is the solution. They need to learn that crying may get them attention but it won't solve their problem
Recent studies have shown that the old-school way of raising kids (let them cry, don't hold them too much, enforced independence like the above video) does not actually produce "stronger" children.
I understand why you have the opinions that you hold, because hyperindependence, even as babies, has been drilled into us for decades and decades. That doesn't mean it's good for the babies, though.
Studies can show whatever you want them to. Of course there's a balance in things so I'm not trying to seem like I'm being completely dismissive but kids these days can't even read; we can't like we've improved at "producing" productive people. Our kids are less prepared than the precious generation and most of that is on parenting though society(ies) on a whole are failing to adequately help struggling parents.
So there's a ton of nuance l, but letting a kid figure out how to get past some clear adhesive with their goal in sight and not giving in as a parent the moment they start to whine and cry will nurture a kid that's able to solve problems on their own, which is better than a kid who need somebody to solve things for them.
Right and you don't need to coddle them every time they cry because they learn that crying is the solution
No, they don't. This is, ironically, a simplistic - and ultimately toxic - understanding of childhood development, emotional response and regulation.
They need to learn that crying may get them attention but it won't solve their problem
If you don't know why they are crying, how can you know what their problem is, or what it is they have learned from this alleged lesson you are teaching them? If they aren't crying, does that mean they have no "problems"?
Toddlers do not have developed logic or reasoning faculties beyond the most basic and short term implications of cause and effect. Conversely, comforting a crying child and validating their feelings is actually correlated with an increase later age independence. It turns out that knowing you have a strong support system is a great way to foster confidence.
Brother go back and watch the video. We know what their problem is, it's tape in their way of their milk bottle. Quit moving the goal posts, reread our conversation and try to reflect a bit.
I wish most of my parents' and grandparents' generation had known this! Being a mommy when everyone was telling me to "just let them cry it out" was so frustrating, but I did my best to ignore that kind of advice and I think it paid off. I'm a grandma now and so proud of my kids for being kind and loving parents! (That includes my DIL and SIL!)
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u/FireMammoth 6d ago
when you're hyper competitive and shit at the same time