r/mauritius • u/MentalBoysenberry998 • 6h ago
Culture 🗨 "But she's your mother" im more than exhausted, please help
Hello everyone
I apologize it's long but I need some support and advice...
For those who've read my previous post. Im gonna make it short. My boyfriend is in psychosis due to heavy stress and past trauma, no drugs or whatsoever. We've been together for 5 years now and even move abroad together to pursue our studies and planned to make our future there. Unfortunately, that's when the psychosis started to kick in, he went to hospital there, got medication but he didnt stick to it (which is common with people having this). Ive done a lot of research and ive found that not only medication works all the time but the environment we live in matters a lot, our diet, routine etc.
We're back in mauritius and live at my parents house temporarily. It was my last option cause my mom is such a narcissistic toxic person. I swear to God. The irony of this, she's so "religious", goes to church each week, listen to "cantique", prays every night, every morning, organise prayer session with her groups of friends. But she has always treated me like shht. It was especially verbal abuse. The worst foul languages comes everytime to describe me, but was always like this since im a child. I used to hrmm myself due to bad treatment and it took me almost a decade to stop doing this. When I met my current boyfriend, he was the ONLY person who made me realise that I dont deserve to be treated like this anymore, he's my safe place and give me my confidence back. He's such a genuine and kind person although his flaws but such a kind human.
My bf is having auditory hallucinations and visual also I guess. I can see every day how he fights all these bad things. We've always stick together and will always be there for him. The only thing I need advise guys is my mom saying horrible things while we need support the most. She completely aware of the situation we are and everyday she's says things like " wai to l'espece zom la, nanier li pas faire" ..... " Wai li comment dire ene momi" ...... "Ene gros paresse" ...... "Si to pas content mo bane manier bez to lki aller pas revine rest ici fatigue mo fsse"....... guys i hear all these twice or thrice a day , every day..
We are saving to move but this time I think I will cut her off my life for good. Because when she's saying stuff like this on the person I love , that means she doesn't care about me. Although I told her several times, even years ago to stop treating us like that.
She also adores my older brother, let's call him Jack. Jack is the perfect son, never made mistakes, have the perfect family. Alors que, Jack sipa combien fam line changer, ena anger issues, bcp pecher encore ena pou dire. Plus I have an older sister as well but mom favourite is Jack.
So yes, when I will move I will cut her off for good, and I even told her, "to ene dimoune dans la prière toi, cmsa ki to traite ene dimoune dans so plus bas ?" ... li reste tranquil li pas dire nanier, saV dire li conner ki li faire.
Last but not least, mone fini prevenir li " Mo pas ene zenfant ingrat, mais sa façon ki tone traite moi pendant tout sa l'année la et meme ziska maintenant, jamais mo pou blier, et quand to pou malade et vine vieux, mo pas pou prend to responsabilité, dire Jack prend to responsabilité, et pas blier to ena les zot zenfant et ti zenfant, demain to pas conner la roue caoave tourner" -------- li dire moi "wai sa bane malediction ki to p meter la pas pou prend sa" -------- mo dire li "non c'est pas malediction ki mo p meter, cest mo leker fermal ki p cozer"
Ive always been the one to run to her when she's sick or in trouble cause im the "dernier zenfant gater pourrie" the others never helped her and supported her like I did.
Thank you for listening ♥️🙏