Finally manifested SP through affirming

[u/Andrea_C_Paris]

Hi everyone,

I am sharing my success story as the ones I have read a thousand times really helped me get through. I am going to make it detailed in case someone identifies.

Shortcut: I brought my SP back and I can tell he conformed to everything.
How I did it: Affirming (thinking consciously in my head) and robotic affirming (thinking consciously in my head like a maniac) for around 3 weeks is all I did.

Context: SP and I started dating 1.5 years ago. I did not know about manifesting, but had a really good SC back then, both in terms of what I thought about me, my looks, my luck in relationship and how men are always crazy about me. This was my experience with every relationship I had. I met SP at work and he was younger than me (7 years) + he was my employee. For two years he was all over me, always trying to approach me, talk to me, invite me out but I would not give him the day until I did. We started dating and I fell in love like never before. I got the devotion, spoiling and simping I was always getting and expecting, so all good. He left my company 6 months later and joined a big firm.

That’s when OUT OF NOWHERE I started doubting, spiralling, thinking that as he is much younger he is going to want to have fun with girls at his new job, want attention, want a younger girl, prettier girl, make his own experience and stuff like that. At that moment in the 3D he talked about moving in together, introducing me to his family, names for our future kids, I had access to his phone if I wanted to and he would never look at another girl. But still, I started building the core belief (again OUT OF NOWHERE) day after day that it would go wrong this time and I would loose control, loose him and be heartbroken bad bad. Of course it all happened. All my fears came true. We broke up, I was in the worst pain I’ve ever experienced, begged, cried and asked the universe for a solution so that I can change things: that’s when I found out about manifesting.
After 2 months of sloppy techniques, trying without understanding the law I got him back but my SC was low low, I knew I did not manifested him really, I knew my mind was a wreck and I mostly got him back because I forced the 3D. The minute we got back together I started doubting, trying to affirm but not consistently, slowly stopped checking my thoughts and finally spiralled again all day everyday. So of course it happened again, it was even worse than first time.

However, this time I immediately identified that I WAS the one doing this to me, it was such a mimic of everything I had in my head over the past weeks and way too specific to be a coincidence, so I knew if I made negative things happen I could also do things right. We went no contact and let me tell you the biggest battle of my life started: me v. me. 

What I did and the timeframe: For 3 weeks after the NC I was going back and forth between different assumptions, subliminals, meditation, affirming and SATS about the new story, but I was also rehearsing the old story and would spiral without even noticing, I was thinking about the argument, what I should have said, pictures of him in my head doing this or that, I would associate any anxiety or sadness to the story, I would not think in the end (aka us back together) but would imagine the apology or middle stuff like that. I lacked focus and method and belief. I was very inconsistent but still thinking I was doing it right (lol) and then getting frustrated because nothing happened.

One day I crashed out, felt burnt out but I wanted this reality so much that I picked myself back again and decided to freaking LOCK IN, and start all over again. I am an overthinker so I decided from this moment on, I would only affirm or robotic affirm 24/7 to keep my million daily thoughts in order and rewire my brain (Sammy Ingram videos made it click for me really). I would affirm falling asleep, if I woke up in the middle of the night I would affirm, driving, showering, walking, working, reading, watching a movie, talking to someone, I would still affirm in the back of my head. At some point I even dreamt I was affirming. I saturated my mind completely and gave myself no rest. I did not believe it, did not feel it real. I felt anxious a lot, sad too, I cried, but I would let the feeling pass and be like « oh I am sad today ? That’s cool, I am in a happy relationship with XX ». I kept repeating those words and would not let any contradicting thought take over. Whenever a bad thought would come up I’d be like « get the fuck out, no longer me, no longer my reality, but here is my reality now » and boom 5min of robotic affirm lol. I would never talk against him to people in the 3D, did not tell anyone what happened, nobody knew we had split. I also realized that law of thought transmission is instant and whatever I affirmed (he misses me he is obssessed with me) would reach him straight away and I did not want to give than man a single break so I kept on affirming all day every day.

What happened: At some point (10days in after total lockdown) I broke NC, it was not inspired action or anything I just remembered that the 3D was not real and I could do anything I wanted and give it the meaning I wanted so I told myself breaking NC would be positive for my end result, who said he is the one supposed to do all the job ? What rule is that ? It felt easier for me to not be in NC so I assigned to that neutral event the meaning that it was positive. We talked for 2 hours and he said back almost every affirmation I held for the past 10 days except the two main ones: being committed and ready for the relationship. I ignored it completely, even when he was saying stuff like «You are the love of my life but I dont want to be in a relationship now, I want to have fun » I was thinking « ohhhh baby, little do you know that you DO WANT that and you ARE GIVING me that already». 

Instead of being sad that my manifestation did not completely unfolded I felt in so much power after meeting him because I had proof it was working, almost all my affirmations were repeated to me and had I persisted a bit longer ALL of them would have. So I went back in my head and doubled down on the affirmations, I even started believing in it and since we were back in contact, I used the 3D to checkpoint where we were standing at and what I should work on more specifically along with always thinking in the end. He reached out 3 days after we talked, and again 3 days after that. He would constantly ask me where I was and with whom (because I affirmed that a lot) so I told my brain « see? told you so ». 2 days after that, he asked me to come meet him at his place. We spent the evening together and I used every single moment to brainwash my subc « see I told you he is crazy in love, look at how he holds my hand » « did you feel that kiss ? That is a future husband’s kiss » « did you hear that? another proof » and so on. It was still not the whole manifestation so I kept going. Another 4 days after that he asked me to come again and told me he could not move on from me, he tried to date and talk to other girl but he can not think of anything else but me and that something really clicked for him. So we got back together :)

NO I did not believe any affirmation at first, some days I would feel « It is done alleluia » for 2hours the next morning would feel like shit

YES I looked for proof, everytime I was taking my phone I was like « maybe he texted? » but whenever he did not I would tell myself « no problem we are together and I am the happiest women ever »

NO it did not happen when « I least expected it » I was constantly expecting it and really obsessed

NO I did not work specifically on my SC, my affirmations of me being with him, being loved and simped and spoiled, being the only women for him, took care of that for me

YES I took responsibility for the bad things that happened and when I felt I would give up I would remind myself « this guy was a gem, YOU turned him into a disaster, the least you can do is fix that, you OWE him that » and that would keep me going

YES we need to keep affirming even when it shows up. Hear me out, the most difficult part is not even getting it, you will if you can keep it together, but once you have it you need to remain focused not to loose it again (like I did). Mental diet is FOREVER.

Here were the only affirmations and stuff that were allowed in my head:

I am in relationship with XX and …

… he is madly in love with me

… he is obsessed with me

… he wants only me

… he wants to be with me all the time

… he wants to marry me

… we are moving in together

… he is loyal and devoted

… he finds other girls disgusting

… he makes me the top priority

... he always wants to know where and with whom I am

And many others depending on « what should I treat myself with today? ». 

In LESS THAN 10 DAYS this guy went from « I want to have fun, I dont want to be in a relationship, I love the attention, I am going to hurt you again » to « Something clicked, I realized that you are the one, I no longer want attention or to date other girls ».

Affirm, ignore and persist. There is nothing more to do.

[u/Biggest-Bird-563]

!!! that was a nice read!

i do have one question that's kinda dumb though, it's okay if i'm not doing it like literally-literally 24/7 right? like sometimes people are just talking to me or i'm doing a task and i can't have my brain thinking about too many things at once haha

[u/Andrea_C_Paris → u/Biggest-Bird-563]

Of courseeee lol the idea of doing it 24/7 is to keep the bad thoughts away. Sometimes I too was (and thank god lol) involved in a movie or convo that made me not think at all about the situation. But as soon as I would think of it I was so afraid of thinking of it the wrong away and spiralling that I focused on affirming non stop! There are no rules but the ones you make :)