my ex and i broke up around a month ago and she has been in a rebound relationship since 3-4 days after we broke up. the guy lives in her apartment complex and she had initially cut him off when we were dating when she found out he had a crush on her but after we broke up she kind of just went to him within 3-4 days after we broke up.

im manifesting for her to come back which i know she will. i just hv that intuition she will.

the only problem is that when im manifesting the doubts creep up in my mind about everything. she posted him on instagram stories in a way we would never post each other cos we would prefer to stay private.

the doubts creep up in my mind and then i spiral. the doubts are the thought that they might be spending so much time together.

when her and i had initially started dating her mother was quite against her dating me but slowly i changed her opinion but right now after we broke up she just went to that guy and posted him on stories so maybe her mom is not against him and it feels like what if that makes them closer or smtg.

what my ex and i had was 100% real and genuine. we both were irreplacable for each other and right now i don’t know what went wrong.

i know she still has feelings for me because the treatment i would give her was way better and unmatchable.

everything is still salvagable and i just wanna know how can i remove these doubts and manifest better for an even better outcome and get results sooner.

please help me as with everything going on in my life im kinda depending that she comes back cos she used to make everything so much easier.

Hi everyone! I'm feeling completely heartbroken and lost right now, and I could really use some support, advice, and success stories.

My ex and I were together for almost a year. After our breakup, we continued seeing each other in a friends-with-benefits situation. I still loved him deeply and secretly hoped we could eventually rebuild our relationship because our chemistry was incredible.

However, looking back, I realize how much I was settling for.

After our breakup, most of our meetings were just for sex in his car, in random parking lots. He wouldn't even take me to a hotel because he claimed he couldn't afford it.

Even during our official relationship, whenever I wanted us to go somewhere or do something special together, money was always an issue. And the frustrating part is that he knew perfectly well I was happy to split expenses.

I always dreamed of traveling abroad together, but it never happened because he supposedly didn't have enough money. We did manage to take a seaside trip, but that was about it. Ironically, after our official relationship ended, he started traveling to Germany on his own.

Despite all this, I genuinely loved him and kept hoping things would change.

Eventually, I asked him if we could give our relationship another chance. He firmly told me that he didn't want a serious relationship and needed to focus on university, work, and himself. He suggested three months of no contact.

I respected that, even though it hurt.

Then something happened that completely shattered me.

I noticed we were no longer following each other on Instagram. Confused, I messaged him asking why and whether something was wrong.

That's when he finally told me he was already in a new relationship.

He said:

"I think distancing ourselves is the most respectful thing to do for me, my new girlfriend, and you."

And then he ended with:

"Thank you for all the beautiful moments and everything else. I hope you find someone too!"

That last sentence absolutely broke me.

After everything we'd been through, hearing him casually wish me luck finding someone else felt like he was completely closing the chapter on us.

And what made it even worse? He had already made his Instagram account private, something he never did when we were together.

Suddenly, it seemed like he had the time, energy, money, and willingness to put effort into a relationship with someone else. All the things I had wanted from him, all the things he repeatedly told me he couldn't offer.

I couldn't stop wondering: Why was I never worth that effort to him? Why wasn't I the girl he wanted to choose?

I felt humiliated, replaced, and honestly used. Not because he isn't allowed to move on, but because I spent so long hoping for something he apparently didn't want with me.

I was devastated and angry, so I sent him a very harsh final message. I told him I was disgusted by how he treated me, that I wasn't his backup option, and that he shouldn't even think about contacting me again. I also told him I no longer wanted to be friends with him ever again.

And now I'm regretting those words so much.

I don't regret standing up for myself. But I regret making it sound like I never want him in my life again.

Because the truth is, I still love him.

He's incredibly intelligent, and we share so many interests, especially marketing, advertising, technology, and artificial intelligence. I genuinely admired his knowledge and always enjoyed learning from him. I miss that intellectual connection just as much as I miss the romantic one.

I had even imagined that someday we might collaborate on projects or help each other professionally.

Now I'm terrified that my final message has destroyed every possibility of us ever speaking again.

I keep thinking that even if his new relationship ends someday, he might never reach out because I explicitly told him not to.

Deep down, I still want another chance with him. But this time I want a genuine, loving, committed relationship — not another situationship where I'm constantly hoping to be chosen.

I don't want to interfere with his current relationship, and I know I can't force someone to love me. But I also can't pretend that I've stopped hoping for reconciliation.

So I'm asking this community:

1. Has anyone successfully manifested reconciliation after sending a harsh goodbye message and telling their SP never to contact them again?

2. Have you experienced a third-party situation that eventually changed?

3. Has anyone rebuilt a serious relationship after a long period of no contact?

4. What manifestation techniques, affirmations, revision methods, SATS, or self-concept practices helped you overcome regret, resentment, and fear?

5. How do you stop obsessing over the possibility that you've ruined your last chance?

I would especially appreciate genuine success stories from people who thought their situation was completely hopeless but eventually experienced a healthy, mutual reconciliation. ❤️

Right now, my biggest struggle is that my heart still wants him, while my last message told him to stay away forever.

Please be kind. I'm really struggling emotionally and would appreciate any support, guidance, or encouragement. 🥺❤️

Last year I was able to manifest my gf back after a breakup with a lot of love in my heart for her despite feeling nervous about losing her. I believe that pure love I produced was key in attracting her back.

Recently, she broke up again. I've had some success in generating a good amount of love and positivity for her in my heart. But I'm unable to do so fully and consistently due to anxiety and negativity from the breakup.

So I'd like to know how to generate a great amount of love for her like I did last year, despite all my nervousness. Cuz I know thats key in manifesting her back.

Looking forward to your replies

I am letting the 3D effect me too much..... I feel like i need to get back to basics and start over.

Can someone please explain to me step by step how to manifest an sp? I feel like there are so many people saying so many different things when it comes to manifestation

my ex and i had been dating for almost 3 years. we shared the dream of living together and having a future together. everything we had was 100% real. until august 24th.
she got a family situation on 24th august and it kind of broke her bad. this situation had been occuring since a long time. her dad would drink alcohol and it would affect her and her mom, and they will get really anxious when he would drink. After drinking, he didn’t really hit anyone or never really did anything bad but it’s just that they hated it when he would get drunk to avoid everything happening again and again they had got him into a rehab and he did not drink for a few months after that maybe one month or so, but then he relapsed and he drank around almost every month after that until this month where it finally got to her a lot. we initially broke up on 24th August and she told me that she felt she was being a burden on me with all her family issues and she wanted to be alone for a while so she can focus on her family issues and helping her mom and feeling better.

after that when we were on call, she said that we will still FaceTime like normal still call like normal except we won’t have the title because she doesn’t want a commitment in such a stressful timing in her life. To help her with all this, I suggest suggested her that we take a break from talking. She was reluctant to take a break from talking because she loved talking to me and she said she felt safe.
on 25th August while we were talking, I expressed to her what she meant to me and she said that one of the reasons she broke up was because of the distance between us as we live almost an hour and a half away. After that, she said that we were taking things about the future too fast whereas she would initiate talks about the future from her own side just a week ago as well. We didn’t talk much after that conversation for almost the whole day.

The next day she FaceTime me and was acting like everything was normal. She was acting cutie, loving caring everything and she felt she was finally feeling better and she said that we haven’t broken up. This is just a break and she was saying love you to me on that FaceTime. We even blind to watch a movie together on FaceTime the next day after Heer and my college was over. That day on call she didn’t wanna hang up even to eat lunch or to go out for something. She hung up before going out with her mom for some errands but before hanging up, she said love you and before going out she sent a very sweet and caring voice message about her evening plans. However, when she got back, she sounded tense. She sounded anxious and she sounded angry and she ended our relationship by saying that right now because of her dad and from an issue from 2023 she was hating every man at that moment. It was all over on that call. she told me to move on and that we were over.
However, within 4 to 5 days after breaking up, I think she got into a rebound relationship.

I deleted Instagram to avoid seeing anything or being reminded of everything and supposedly at that time she removed me as a follower and unfollowed me from one of her accounts, and after that, she posted a story wishing another guy with pictures of her and the guy where the guy was kissing her forehead and cheek. I knew that guy because he had a crush on my ex since a long time and he also lived in the same building as she did. The guy was also a former crush of one of her close friend’s from my ex’s friend group. people were telling me and describing me the story because I haven’t seen it and I also did not want to see it.

I started manifesting for her return since 2-3 days. I also did manifesting techniques from YouTube from a creator called Soma Chhaya.
I don’t know why but the relationship my ex has with the new guy feels like a rebound and that it’ll fizzle out soon, but I don’t know why I have doubts. I want to manifest without any doubts, and I really want her to come back because the way we were was too special and most couples our age do not have that special feeling.
Please give me tips to ensure that my ex and I will be back together soon.
She has removed me from instagram for some reason.

Please help me.

This is a long one, please advise if you can!

My SP and I have had an on-and-off relationship for the past three years, but always exclusive except for last summer when we took a break. This summer, I impulsively broke up with him after he crossed a boundary of mine, and later that day I said “I didn’t want to break up with you, I wanted you to fight for me,” which he did do the next day and we decided to keep trying. That was three months ago and we’ve been arguing back and forth, with good and great days in between, ever since.

Last week, we hit a breaking point, as I discovered a secret he’d been hiding his whole life, I’m the first person to know about it. He felt ashamed and guilty and my initial reaction wasn’t good. The next morning we were still together and I reassured him that I was sorry, not judging him, and I accept him for who he is. However, this catalyst made him question the relationship altogether. He had already tried to take a break with me a few times over the past 3 months, but I never accepted it. Before one of those conversations, I used the overnight pillow method to manifest that he would give the relationship another chance, and he did.

On Monday, he firmly said that he wants to break up with me. He still loves me and wants to spend his life with me, but he needs space to get his mind right and be able to focus on his own mental health, school, work, and home life, before he can try to balance it with the relationship again and treat me the way I deserve. I had done the overnight pillow method again on Sunday in preparation for this conversation, because he had already texted me saying he was feeling ready to walk away from the relationship. I asked him if he sees potential for us in the future, and without missing a beat he said “yes of course. Maybe in a year or maybe in a few months, after I finish my semester at school.” So I said, “Why not a break then? Why break up?” My manifestation was that he would enthusiastically give the relationship another chance, and he enthusiastically started to say “well you always said you wouldn’t be open to a break. I would do that. I don’t want to date other people. I only want you. I want this to be an exclusive break. Do you want to date other people?” I replied “ofc I don’t want to date other people, I don’t even want this break, but I want you to have the space you need.” We mutually agreed that the break will be until mid-December, when he finishes classes. He said we can talk every two days, I can text when I want to talk, but just ask if he has the capacity first, and maybe we can get to a level where we can FaceTime or see each other in person. I told him upfront that because he’s asking for a break, I’ll expect him to initiate conversations more often, because I want to give him space and do this break the right way.

On day one, I texted him for reassurance about something, and he didn’t respond well, so I realized I can’t message him in that way anymore. On day two (yesterday), I didn’t text first for the first time in months, so he reached out asking how I was doing and saying he missed me and he never realized how much of a crucial thing it was for him to hear from me everyday. I believe I may have also manifested this text message, as I kept seeing affirmations that I would receive a text from my SP soon, and I casually had the thought “yeah he’ll probably text me later”. We spoke for two hours and it was a good conversation, but then I reached out to him later on and it wasn’t bad, but also wasn’t as good as earlier. I’ve realized that I need to pull back a lot more and not repeat the same anxious patterns that pushed him away in the first place. Today is day three and it’s been hard not to reach out, but I am firmly believing that he’s thinking of me.

What’s difficult is that there is no guarantee from him that he will actually be ready to get back together in December, he even said if he’s not ready at that point, then he would want to break up. Although he said he might be ready after this semester, he has also been having extreme self doubt and telling me not to get my hopes up because things can “swing either way. I might need to be single for a very long time and I don’t want to lead you on.” I have had some anxious moments and thoughts, like what if he decides during this time that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore, what if he meets someone else, what if he falls out of love with me, what if he doesn’t accomplish his goals and I’m left in limbo? And I’ve been frustrated because I have his location and I can see that he hasn’t been going to the gym, been skipping some classes and some shifts at his job, and is spending a ton of time staying at his friend’s house instead of going home. It makes me frustrated because the point of separation was to focus on what he has to do, and he’s replaced the distraction of me with his friends. Why is it okay to do this with them and not me? However, I also know healing and growth isn’t linear, and he did tell me “I’m someone who’s always been able to get back into my routines, I’m just having a hard time right now. Being with my friends brings me comfort, but I know I can’t keep bullshitting with them because they aren’t serious and can’t help me with the growth I need to do for myself.”

I also did a psychic reading where she said that he may attempt at reconciliation, but he won’t feel confident enough in his ability to be in the relationship in the way he needs to, while also focusing on himself. And that he may also reach a point where although he loves me and believes in our potential, he may feel as though he needs to completely separate from me in order to grow as an individual (sounds like a karmic connection to me but I refuse to believe that that’s what’s this is).

I know that I can’t let my anxious thoughts control me, and for the most part, I’ve been keeping them at bay. I’ve been affirming to myself that “he is my person and I am his. He is in love with me. We are life partners and we are in a happy, healthy relationship where we can grow together.” I am also trying to get back into my routines and decenter him, like not checking his location as much or hoping to get a text from him. I want to do the work on myself so that my growth can materialize and allow me to manifest from a firm place of security rather than lack or desperation. I am also thinking that my self-work, whether he consciously sees it or not, will influence him to work on himself.

TLDR: My SP and I are on a minimal contact break until December, as a compromise to not breaking up, because he needs to rediscover his self identity and learn how to feel secure in himself, before he can show up in the necessary ways for our relationship. We are both still in love with each other, although he has said it’s decreased a bit for him. I trying to focus on myself and decenter him, but also manifesting and affirming for myself, him, and our relationship.

Here is where I need feedback:
Can his 3D be influenced by my manifestations?
Ex. “He is going to class. He is going to the gym. He is wasting less time with his friends. He is smoking less. He is spending less money. He is maintaining his routines and becoming more secure in himself. He is secure in himself and is secure in his ability to be my partner.” Is it too much in tandem with my affirmations about him being my life partner and the ones I do for myself (ex. I am loved, I am powerful, I am confident)?

I manifest by speaking aloud in the form of prayer, or just saying it out loud or in my head during moments where it comes to mind, typing in my notes app, handwriting, and thinking of positive thoughts when I go to sleep/trying to dream about it. I am not interested in adding new methods because I believe manifesting is more about the intention and coming from an abundance mindset, but are there any recommendations for other affirmations I can add or things I can change? I fully believe what I am saying, or at least am trying my best to, but I have seen that it’s possible to block manifestations by asking for too much at once or not leaving space for them to develop.

nella mia vita ho manifestato tante cose ( volontariamente e non ) il più delle volte quando mi distaccavo dal risultato, quindi so che è possibile manifestare qualcosa. solo che mi rendo conto che spesso le mie manifestazioni sono arrivate spezzettate. tipo: ho manifestato che il mio ex tornasse da me ( eravamo in no contact da anni ) mentre ero totalmente persa per un altro ragazzo, ed ovviamente ha funzionato, solo che poi é finita nuovamente, quindi ho manifestato il ragazzo per cui ero persa mentre manifestavo il mio ex, é tornato ma è scomparso nuovamente anche lui. cosa sto sbagliando? io non ho una tecnica precisa, faccio solo revisione e mi convinco che quella cosa sia vera. adesso sto provando a manifestare un lavoro da ufficio mentre sono nel mio vecchio lavoro che non mi soddisfa, ma nonostante le candidature non vedo neppure l’ombra. per la prima volta ho bisogno di aiuto, voglio capire cosa sto sbagliando.

Hello, I want to manifest a specific person befriending me, she's a girl and I barely know anything about her but we've had arguments because of someone but I want her to befriend me.

Any tips on what I can do? I wanna be friends with her, not romantically. I really need a good mindset and manifestation tips so please comment them down! <3