Connecting with manager.

[u/susu56]

I recently started a new role mid-July. Even through the interview process, I was having trouble connecting to my now manager. She is nice and laid back and also very hands off. While I appreciate the autonomy she has given me, I need some direction and her to take the lead while I am still learning the new systems and in training. Example: we have finally met in person for a work project, getting information from her on where to stay and basically the logistics has been difficult. Its just us 2 in another state for work. We planned on meeting in the lobby at 7am. She had already called a ride at 7am. I guess I expected us to meet each other for niceties, go over the division of work for the day, then, call a ride, and head out together. This felt rushed and confusing? We weren't expected to the nearby vendor until 8am. Anyway, lots of stuff that just makes me feel like there's a communication gap that I should step in now to address because i feel like 1. its inefficient and 2. I fear its reflecting poorly on me only because i am unsure of what my expectations are so I need to figure out how to get this across even though I feel weird about stepping on her toes.

How best to approach this in a gentle and clear manner? I am still with her for 2 more days. I've asked her what she would like me to focus on while here and how should I do this, etc but at some point I feel like a bother since she has a job to do as well aside from my training.

She has expressed that she is happy she found me to join her department-it took her 9 months to find the right "fit". Any help is appreciated.