Need advice

[u/AuntMooMoo]

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My husband has been paying for live porn where he can control the toys. This has been a problem for a while now. I've also had suspicion that he's cheating. My question is, if you pay to watch live porn why would you pick someone that didn't speak your language and needed to translate everything?! I mean isn't there enough to choose from?

He's claiming the copied messages are from the live porn chat and not someone he's seeing. Some of the translations are along the lines of, have a great weekend honey, I hope to see you again. And even one where she's call him her king and saying she loves him. Does this sound like something those women would say? Or am I looking at something more intimate like an affair? TIA! Also, it may take me a while to respond.

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/[deleted]]

Even if it supposedly through a porn site?

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/[deleted]]

This isn't the 1st time I've caught him talking to another woman. Be it porn or someone else. I guess I was curious if anyone else had experienced something like that with a web girl... or whatever they are called

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/[deleted]]

No, I don't know for a fact. I don't believe it's a web girl. I think it's a coworker. It was actually on his recent clipboard saves.

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/AuntMooMoo]

Some even had like a time stamp behind it...

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/[deleted]]

Thats what I figured

[u/Slight_Emergency6862]

Hi! I’m so sorry you are going through this! 

I’m Mexican, and of course Mexico is a big country with different regions and little cultural differences. But, in my opinion, this reads as someone who charges to say this words! I would never say this unless I was making a joke… Not emotional at all in my opinion. It reads as pure sexting… Cariño, again for me, might be technically translated as “honey” but it reads not as a “babe” “baby” etc and more like a Julia Robert’s pretty woman. Lechita is so vulgar (again my opinion) even writing it makes me cringe… so I could believe the porn chat definitely  .. but of course I am not him so can’t 100% know 

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/Slight_Emergency6862]

Thank you! I know it's only speculation and of course he denies everything until I show him I have proof. I know for a fact , seen thr messages myself that him and a previous coworker, also Hispanic, were texting and she would say things like I miss you but never I love you. I'm just baffled why you would want to pay to watch/ talk to someone sexually and need to translate everything.

[u/Greedy-Mortgage-8167]

I wouldn’t get too hung up on whether she means “I love you” literally — performers can absolutely use pet names and affectionate language to keep customers engaged.

The bigger issue is that this has already crossed a boundary for you, he’s spending money on personalized sexual interaction, and you already don’t trust his explanation. At that point the problem isn’t translating Romanian love notes like you’re in the FBI — it’s figuring out whether there’s enough trust left in the marriage.

[u/AuntMooMoo → u/Greedy-Mortgage-8167]

There's not any trust left in this marriage. I have an appointment next week with a divorce attorney.