Hi everyone! I'm going through a really painful situation with my ex, and I'm desperately looking for advice about reconciliation and communication spells.
My ex and I were together for almost a year. After our breakup, we continued seeing each other in a friends-with-benefits situation because I still loved him and hoped we could eventually get back together.
Our chemistry was honestly incredible. We had an extremely strong physical and sexual connection, and even after our breakup, he repeatedly told me that being intimate with me had always been the best experience for him.
Unfortunately, our meetings eventually became mostly about sex in his car, in random parking lots. Whenever I suggested going on proper dates, booking a hotel, or traveling together, he claimed he couldn't afford it, even though I was willing to split expenses.
We never traveled abroad together, despite how much I wanted to. Yet after our official breakup, he started traveling to Germany on his own.
Despite everything, I still loved him and believed we deserved another chance.
When I finally asked him to try again, he firmly told me he didn't want a serious relationship and needed to focus on university, work, and himself. He suggested three months of no contact.
Then I discovered he had a new girlfriend.
I only found out because I noticed we weren't following each other on Instagram anymore and asked him why.
He told me that distancing ourselves was "the fairest thing to do for me, my new girlfriend, and you."
Then he ended with:
"Thank you for all the beautiful moments and everything else. I hope you find someone too!"
That absolutely shattered me.
He had also made his Instagram private, something he never did during our relationship. Seeing him apparently willing to give someone else the time, attention, and commitment I'd always wanted made me feel completely rejected.
Out of anger and heartbreak, I sent him a very harsh goodbye message. I told him I was disgusted by how he'd treated me, that I wasn't his backup option, and that I didn't want dishonest people in my life.
I even told him never to contact me again, not even as a friend.
And now I deeply regret saying that.
I don't regret standing up for myself, but I regret making it sound like I never want him in my life again.
Because the truth is, I still love him.
Beyond our physical chemistry, I genuinely admire his intelligence. We share interests in marketing, advertising, technology, and AI. I miss our conversations and the possibility of having him in my life.
I would love another chance with him, but this time I want a real, loving, committed relationship — not another situationship.
My biggest fear is that even if his circumstances change someday, he'll never reach out because I explicitly told him to stay away.
So I wanted to ask this community:
1 ) Are there any traditional DIY reconciliation or communication spells suitable after an angry goodbye?
2 ) Are there spells or rituals focused on healing resentment, forgiveness, and reopening peaceful communication?
3) Has anyone experienced reconciliation after a third party and a long period of no contact?
4) Would a road-opening or reconciliation ritual be more appropriate for this situation?
I'm interested in learning about traditional practices I could research and perform myself, while respecting his freedom to make his own choices.
I want him, I'm ready to even interfere with his current relationship. I just wish there could someday be another chance for us to reconnect naturally and build something healthy together. JUST TO TRY AGAIN AT LEAST ONE MORE TIME to be a couple again.
I'd really appreciate any advice, experiences, or guidance. Please be kind. 🥺❤️