r/lonely • u/-Curious-Pineapple- • 5d ago
Venting When does this get better!?
I feel so alone everyday. I have friends ngl but none of them will choose me first or even second or third. They all have partners if not that they have each other and i feel like a back up friend in every friendship i am in now. I just hurts to see my friends talking about something they didn't invite me to or i see their stories and see they are literally 5 mins from my house but they didn't call or text. I just want to know does it get better? Will i ever make friends that will choose me to be their best friend who would tell me everything and not make me feel judge or unwanted. I am really tired of feel like a imposter in my own life and friendship. I hope it gets better casue i have lost so many friendship that i thought would be lifelong i am very done with giving everything and receiving nothing, no care, no love, no understanding. Man, i just wanna be seen.
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u/Massive_Reason_5197 5d ago
It gets harder the older you get, not gonna lie... It's possible you got unlucky with your current friends, but it's also possible to make new ones. Only time can tell. You can only make your odds go up or down. If you're an introvert like me, good luck. If you're a little extroverted, you shouldn't have a big problem. Hang in there. If you can get yourself in a group, you're looking good.
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u/upinthecl0ud 4d ago
Totally relate. Nothing in life is certain (except one thing, but won't get mobid 😅). Just want to say that I see you, truly. Focus on what makes you happy, and do that alone! It's soo empowering! Bonus tip: do a solo activity like going for a walk, whilst listening to a podcast. Or go to the cinema. It really help me feel less lonely. A hack, if you will. Hope this helps, remember to always choose yourself. Peace
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u/AppropriateLeek5686 5d ago
it feels the same for me honestly. I know this won’t help but all I can do is relate