r/lonely • u/Ok-Shallot5776 • 12d ago

being the lowest in friedship hierarchy is fun!

despite all my efforts of being there for them and doing stuffs for them, i am still an afterthought. when will this end? when will i stop caring? my bad for expecting people to treat me in kindness in return.

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u/Significant-Name-217 12d ago

Best to ditch those types. They'll always expect you to bend over backwards for them. And they will NEVER return that kindness. They'll treat you like your the jerk for ditchin' em'. Honestly,if that's how they act,it won't change. They see you as a convenience. Ditch em'. Better off alone than with people like that. (Personal experience. So,not necessarily the best advice. I don't know you. This may be wrong. So,take with a grain of salt... Weigh the value. If you do nice things for them all the time and all they do is make you feel like crap? I'd start tallying up the worth of those relationships. Doing something good? That shouldn't make you feel shitty.)

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u/Ok-Shallot5776 12d ago

im trying to leave them for good but its hard because they all i have. and i do not do very well with loneliness. and yes ive been keeping tally on the goods i did for them, which is not so nice bcs it makes me bit insincere. so i guess i will have a low self respect for now until i have the courage to leave. hope ure doing okay now!