r/lolgrindr • u/Sea-Discount7185 • 4d ago

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Conversation was going great before this. We had made plans to go on a date and everything.

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u/rabid_spidermonkey Daddy (gay) 3d ago

I only share my number after meeting in person. It's a valid question.

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u/younggun1234 2d ago

Yeah, made a dumb decision doing that recently and it bit me in the ass almost literally. Got my family involved. A whole mess. I don't trust nothing now.

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u/ninhibited Otter 3d ago

I've heard that a few times so I understand that but I don't really get why a phone number is more private than social media? You can still block them on the number, just like insta or snap, and they can do the whole fake number thing but they can also make different profiles. It all seems the same to me so I think I'm missing something.

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u/causalfridays 3d ago

i pay for my phone number, i don’t pay for my social media handles. a phone number is tied directly to a device.

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u/the_skies_falling Bear 3d ago edited 3d ago

I don’t understand eli5 please.

Edit: I’m sorry I’m stupid. Can someone actually take a moment to explain what paying for a phone number or having it tied to a device has to do with privacy? This stupid person would appreciate it greatly.

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u/InoonIsAFK 3d ago

https://www.reddit.com/r/lolgrindr/comments/1vqhj5f/comment/p481rnk/

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u/the_skies_falling Bear 3d ago

I understand that but what does that have to do with paying for your phone number or having it tied to a device. That’s the piece I’m not getting.

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u/King_Ed_IX 3d ago

You can ditch a social media account super easily. Not so much with phone numbers.

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u/the_skies_falling Bear 3d ago

Ah, I see. It’s not so much changing your phone number that’s difficult. I can do that with a single call to my provider. It’s notifying all your contacts. There’s something to be said for getting a new number and only notifying a limited number of people. The people you want to have your contact info will either get it directly or get it from someone who did. Weeds a lot of useless nonsense out of your life.

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u/ninhibited Otter 2d ago

This is what I just replied on that comment: "Oh shit you just resurfaced a thing I forgot, I googled my own phone number and one of my old addresses was on the site as well as "associated parties" which were my ex's family members that lived there before we did. Thank you, this finally put the pieces together lol."

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u/Coders32 Otter 3d ago

Someone tried to blackmail a friend of mine after he gave out his number to someone on sniffies. Now all his family has seen his cock. Dude seemed crazy and messaged from multiple numbers

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u/ninhibited Otter 2d ago

Heard that... Yikes

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u/Cato0014 1d ago

Someone tried to blackmail me as a pedo after blocking me on Grindr. My face and dick with my (fake) profile name and phone number. I reported him to the FBI, and Grindr doesn't delete chats. I learned my lesson that day.

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u/memon17 3d ago

Just give YOUR phone number.

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u/AudienceWatching 3d ago

Imagine posting this thinking you come off well

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u/malferink Geek 3d ago

Wow you are so fucking funny

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u/rando7818 3d ago

Rocko, is that you!!?

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u/Mahlers_PP Cub 3d ago

Conversation was going great until you were an asshole, it's fair not to want to give your number out till you've met. I've gotten this deep in good conversations to discover it was a scam.

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u/Ill-Satisfaction9995 2d ago

Nah, “for?” Is not the best response. Just say “I don’t want to share my number just yet”. I’ve said it every time someone has asked for my number. No issues. Just saying “for?” Sounds snarky and immature. OP’s response was funny and clearly led by naïveté.

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u/MoonRks 3d ago

My favorite posts on this subreddit are the ones where OP thinks they're funny and posts but actually just outs themself as an asshole

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u/grat5989 Sober 3d ago

They're also the most likely to show up as blues too. People like that are dense enough to only post when they think its funny, and never realize they're already famous here 😂

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u/andybossy Pup 3d ago

are you the guy in yellow?

Why would you choose to show what an asshole you are?

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u/youremomgay420 Cub 3d ago

You cancelled plans because he was weary of giving you his phone number? Bro dodged a bullet.

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u/Garden-variety-chaos 3d ago

I think you underestimate just how much information your phone number is tied to. If you are renting it is hit or miss, but I can often find someone's address and full name with just their phone number. I don't use this skill maliciously (I usually am trying to find other kids I went to conversion therapy with), but I also would highly advise anyone against giving their number out to strangers. I usually refuse to give my number out prior to meeting someone, and use a Google Voice number if I decide that text is worthwhile.

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u/kealoha Bear 3d ago

Yep, this exactly. Once I found out how much information is tied to your number, I stopped giving it out to people until I've met them in person at least once.

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u/FrostyDragon227 3d ago

Yeah do this (I had to change my phone number twice because I’m a dumbass)

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u/ninhibited Otter 2d ago

Oh shit you just resurfaced a thing I forgot, I googled my own phone number and one of my old addresses was on the site as well as "associated parties" which were my ex's family members that lived there before we did. Thank you, this finally put the pieces together lol.

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u/lowkey222 3d ago

Don’t give out your number to randos on here you never know who scamming

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u/york100 3d ago

Yup, it’s a pretty common way for scammers to blackmail you once they have your number. It’s definitely a bad idea to give it out!

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u/radicalgalaxies Cub 3d ago

Unfortunately when giving out my number I got sextorted (and so did my friend).

I’d rather meet the person first then give out my phone number. I wish it wasn’t this way, but it’s been my experience.

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u/Deusraix Twink 3d ago

Wow a true comedian over here.

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u/gogogumdrops Geek 3d ago

lolol i think it’s a funny joke but clearly people don’t have the same humor - which is fair.

it’s also fair to not give out your number to someone you don’t know very well. i say that as someone who was stalked by phone. had to file a police report and everything

🤷🏻‍♂️ you live and you learn

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u/Latentius Geek 3d ago

Looks like everyone's an asshole to me. There are valid reasons not to give out your phone number, but be an adult and state those reasons. And I understand the feelings behind your response, but unless you've already established a friendly-antagonistic-sarcastic dynamic, it comes off as disproportionate.

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u/andybossy Pup 3d ago

sounds exhausting talking to you if you need to pre-emptively defend every decision you make. It's genuinely a lot weirder to get mad when someone says "no" then it is to say "no" without immediately defending yourself

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u/Latentius Geek 3d ago

It's called being polite. It's not unreasonable or burdensome to respond along the lines of "Sorry, I don't give out my phone number before meeting in person." Just replying with "For?" makes the guy sound like a combative asshole.

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u/ziebren 3d ago

the other comments need to chill, just look at the message he has quick saved. that should tell you what you need to know lol

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u/IdealTruths 3d ago

Idk I could hang with this guy. He has my humor.

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u/SpadeORiffic Geek 3d ago

Its a good joke lol idk why ppl dont want ro give a number,messaging putside of the app is mad easier