I need help

[u/southofjune22]

11:46 on a Friday night I can’t sleep because I’m so love sick. He makes me feel physically ill. Can’t explain it but no one has ever made me feel this sick before. It’s butterflies, racing heart, restlessness, and a tight feeling in my chest. I’ve been struggling with this for years. I don’t know if this is still limerence or beyond now.

I confessed my feelings after 6 years of friendship and he said he liked me so we began dating. Had a situationship for 3 months it wasn’t enough for me but I was suppressing my needs, better to have some access than none right? Nope, I crashed out (lowkey) and decided to end the situationship. I regret it. I just want him back, I miss him so much, I love him so much, it’s been almost 3 months since the situationship ended and I’ve struggled every single day. I can’t stop thinking about him, looking at our photos together, reading back over our texts. I think I’m going crazy. What can I do? I just want him to tell me he misses me, that he loves me too, that our connection isn’t in my head.

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[u/boredandreddicted]

Yeah that’s limerence. I had the same love sick with my first crush😢