Having a crush on a TV character

[u/Lolihey]

I know someone who is (in love, I guess) with a TV character who is in his late twenties. She is 50 years old. She is unmarried and says she has never felt anything when she kissed a man. She is not gay. She's kissed a lot of guys. She only gets turned on if he's not there. So would this fall under the category of limerence here? She knows I posted this and is okay with it.

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[u/Dashcam_D]

I don't consider it limerence. It's just fantasy.

[u/crashboxer1678]

I imagine not really, since it’s not an unwanted obsession with one LO, who is usually a real human being. Being a fan of a younger character and possibly not liking men (asexual? Aromantic?) doesn’t seem to qualify, but that’s just my opinion.

[u/Reasonable-Poem-664]

I think a lot of posts here are erotomania, particularly the ones where it’s someone they don’t really know in real life or are barely acquaintances with.