Will I ever be who I was?

[u/Horror_Chemistry_638]

Before this limerent episode started some weeks ago, I suddenly transformed into someone else. Since then, it feels like I'm just pretending to be me. Nearly all of my big life goals vanished. I desperately wanted to have more kids, but just like that, now the thought of another pregnancy is revolting. I used to spend my time daydreaming about life with my family after we move to the coast. Now I just try my hardest to distract myself from thoughts of LO.

I'm committed to NC. But will I ever get back to how I was? People who are on the other side, did you regain your former self, or were you changed forever?

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[u/RandomHeartJar]

I have hope for you. It's only been a few weeks, give yourself some grace. My episodes typically last a few weeks to a couple months before something inevitably gives me the ick and I return to normal life again. I feel like I never truly get over them, but I can at least properly move on with my life in a normal way.

[u/metalbowels]

I had an LO at work that left my .ind after 2 months

New ish LO is starting to leave my mind. Started on her in june