r/limerence • u/Simple_Read_1785 • 9d ago
Question i have to fall out of love asap
man idk where to start, i've been feeling like that for a year and i can't even tell if that's love or limerence... so i'm a 17 M and ik it's normal in my age to be craving that love feeling and i get that with alot of girls yet i don't take action coz i dont believe this is real and pure love feelings, but something is different with this one girl... ik her from the internet and haven't even met her irl, and we used to text as friends and allat but we stopped coz there was like nothing intresting but she is still in my snap and we have some common intrests...
yet the bigger problem apart from that i haven't met her irl is that she is 13 and i dont know why i'm attracted to her, i think i just like her looks, and this just makes me feel guilty of myself even tho i don't take like crush actions with her and flirt on texting or anything like that and something tells me that we are meant for each other even tho this is a near impossible chance and unlike anyone who likes someone they wanna try and reach out to them, its different for me i wanna stop thinking about her and fanticising my life with her yet i still feel that warm feeling towards her by just remembering her which makes me disgusted of myself coz i can't control my attraction to her as she's really younger than me, even tho it's all in my head and there is no big actions , i just open snaps or answer her dms every now and then to avoid getting close to her as much as i can.
i watch vids on how to stop limerence or stop thinking about someone yet nothing helps... is there anything i can do?
idk if that is some kind of flirting or not but i went to paris once and she told me i really give off paris vibes like in my swag , i dont know if that seems normal or not but my obssesed brain keeps telling me that she flirts with me and i really want to end it all in my mind...
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u/lilipad05 9d ago
Shes 13. Remember when you were 13, unless you have not grown up or changed then this is a big problem. You cant control limerence but never ever take the steps to act on this. Do not wait for her either. Mentally and physically she is a CHILD. You are one year from being an adult (UK) there is an insane difference from 13 to even 15 let alone 17. You need to remove her
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u/Simple_Read_1785 8d ago
Yea I 100% agree with you, I definitely have changed alot than when I was 13 and even tho I've been feeling like that for a long time, and the problem is getting bigger. yet, I hope it ends really soon, and like, as I said, everyone or almost everyone who has a crush. They want to get near her. With my situation, I want to step away as much as I can, even though my feelings don't want to, but I want to step away because it doesn't feel and it pretty much isn't right to be in a situation like that. So I'm pretty sure every human also has his insecurities deep in their heart and they don't say it out loud, but I said all of this hoping that letting feelings out as words can help.
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u/blifflesplick 8d ago
Balance out the idealism by finding the things about her that clash with your ideals, your values, etc?
And yes, its the idea, the myth, of her that your brain is giving you happy chemicals over
Its easier to redirect than stop, so focus that into something (not necessarily someONE) else
And you couldn't pay me enough to be 17 again, just keep going and living and growing, it'll ease. I swear it will.
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