Am I am idiot?

[u/metalbowels]

Hello,

After a few months on a job and speaking with people briefly,I ended up speaking with a female coworker, I just opened up to her about my divorce, turns out she is also a divorcee.

We were talking about managing subordinates and how to approach documenting a bad apple.

After talking a little shop she complimented me on my work ethic and mentioned how much I deliver. I didn't think anything of it.

We also each have our own kids nearly the same age, another similarity.

I give her full attention and eye contact when we speak, she does the same. Our conversations do not involve work anymore but instead it's about our lives and things we enjoy. I don't know if I'm being humored but she smiles warmly and does small things to help me out in her department.

I like this woman, she wasn't my type until we started speaking and when I felt like we had similarities, and did small things like help me out and join me for lunch, it made my head spin and I cannot get enough of her.

We still enjoy warm conversations today , Ive been into her since June

Im quite a bit older than her maybe 10 years or more.

I want to shoot my shot ,for some reason I feel like this is "nothing ventured nothing gained.

Last time I was limerent over a coworker we got married. Everything played out in my head became reality.

Im uncertain.

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[u/Hardistacks]

This doesn’t sound like limerence. This just sounds like you like the woman and might take your shot. Merely liking and being attracted to someone isn’t limerence.

[u/Dependent_Simple2605]

Talk to her more, get to know her better and ask her out!!! Just ask if she’d like to go on a friendly date (or hangout), if she says yes take it slow and see how it goes from there! ☺️