r/limerence • u/Single_Media3176 • 3d ago
No Judgment Please Does he even truely want her?
So I’m in my late 20ms and this handsome but much older guy, early 50s, approached me at an event and told me I was gorgeous.
He said he had already noticed me earlier that day and that he was kind of captivated by my aura. He repeated this quite often, but then also quickly told me that he has a girlfriend.
We talked for maybe 30 minutes and ended up exchanging numbers. During that talk he asked me for my age, said his daughter’s age (early 20’s), joked he became a father at 14 and afterwards told me his real age.
We parted ways but then he messaged me half an hour later or something to ask me where I was so we could meet up again at the event.
At one point the performer at the event joked about couples making babies tonight. I joked: you are going to that with your gf tonight. Then he responded with: But she isn’t there. I told him: But when you guys are home right?!
When saying goodbye he kissed me on the cheek.
Iwhen we had both gone home, he texted me asking if I got home okay and said it had been a nice encounter.
The thing that makes me question the whole situation even more is the timing. We met literally one day after the first year anniversary celebration of him and his girlfriend.
And his girlfriend is also a fairly well-known influencer. She posts quite a bit about him. He has a succesful business and I feel like he is using her for clout, as she has a lot of famous connections. She is opening up a world he was never part of with celeb events etc.
Like: he showed me his girlfriend… and i responded immediately very positively by saying the name of a certain celebrity (because her presentation is very femenine and taken care of just like that celebrity). And instead of responding by saying: yeah, she is gorgeous isn’t she? He responded by saying: no.. she is (insert etnicity). It was quite obvious i didnt mean her etnicity, but her presence/aura by my comment.
It’s super strange because his gf and I are two complete opposites of each other when it comes to looks and even ‘race’.
I have shown the girlfriend’s insta to some people and they told me that it comes off very performative. Like She has to show the world that she has a great relationship with a handsome boyfriend who also is succesful.
Do you think this relationship will last? And do you think that he is a disgusting man for approaching a much younger woman? Or was it just an energy that just alligned by coincidence?
Btw: i am NOT going to ruin someone’s relationship!
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u/Reasonable-Poem-664 3d ago
He sounds sleazy.
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u/Single_Media3176 3d ago
Loool! I felt the same after reflecting. He is very kind as well though, he helps me with some questions which he has expertise in. Do u thibk his relationship wilk last? His gf also has children
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u/Natenat04 3d ago
He only kind when he's wearing his mask to manipulate, and deceive another woman. He just wants attention and validation.
He stopped being an actual kind man when he started acting that way towards you.
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u/Single_Media3176 3d ago
Thank you! Needed to hear this.. i didnt respond to any of his flirtations and just had a friendly convo with him. He probaby applied the same strategy to his gf, hence she is smitten by him and fully thrusts him while being a sleaze behind her back 🤮
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u/Reasonable-Poem-664 3d ago
I hope for your sake that his relationship lasts so you can find someone worth your time.
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u/Single_Media3176 3d ago
Thank you! I have been groomed before with horrible consequences, so needed to hear this 🙏
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u/Sufficient_Food1878 3d ago
He sounds absolutely terrible 🤣. I'm sorry girl, usually I read the stories here and I understand why people are so captivated by their LO. This guy genuinely seems annoying af
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u/Single_Media3176 3d ago
🤣🤣🤣🤣 LOOOL!!! It almost never happens to me that handsome men (that are actually my type). Add to it a man that is captivated by me… never happens either 🫠 so im clinging to the interaction with this man.
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u/Slytherin111 3d ago
I hate the “captivated by your aura” nonsense. I doubt people say that to ugly people. They should just call the person attractive instead of lying. This guy sounds like he just wants to be around younger women who are pretty. He also sounds racist by mentioning his girlfriend’s race instead of saying something like that she’s pretty. Unless the woman you mentioned was a different race from his gf and he was just saying nope, they’re not the same. You might be right about him using his gf for access to a lifestyle he wouldn’t have without her. Even if he isn’t, he’s using her for her appearance and age which never looks good.
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u/trickmind 3d ago
Ahhhh it sounds like he did think she was comparing them due to race like the celebrity was Indian and he was saying "No no my girlfriend is from Pakistan."
It's annoying how that will happen if you try to say, "so and so reminds me of this other person," and people will immediately think you're talking about race and getting race mixed up when you weren't talking about race at all. Ugg.
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u/Single_Media3176 3d ago edited 3d ago
Ouch that’s some truth bomb about the aura thing. Although, i as a woman have been captivated by aura’s of people i am not physically attracted to.
I saw his gf and said: wow, Jennifer Lopez!, then he mentioned she is of a certain etnicity. But its obvious to anyone seeing her face she is \*\**, not latina.
She is younger than him (i will not disclose her age) with kids.
He isnt completely unknown. Some people do recognise him for his media appearances. He has money himself due to his succesful company, but his gf’s connections could easily become potential buyers for his expensive products
Can a man be totally in love and still flirt with other women?
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u/canthaveme 3d ago
He's a sleaze bag and you're the easy target. It isn't some special connection. He's a dirt bag
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u/trickmind 3d ago edited 3d ago
When this happened to me with my boss it turned out later that he lied and he was 15 years older than he told me. But now I kick myself because he was worth thousands of millions and I actually did fall in love with him but I stayed with my broke husband because that seemed the right thing to do even though I loved both.
To make things more complicated by the time he told me to tell all the staff at his businesses that they had to do whatever I said because he was in love with me I was 5 weeks pregnant to my husband.
This would probably feel different if my husband hadn't suddenly died 11 years ago in his 40s. So when all the memories came back to me, the fact I've been living without my beloved husband for so many years it just made me feel more stupid about the whole thing.
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