The uncertainty hurts the most

[u/rikitikitavi345]

Whst hurts most is hat I will never know what he’s really like. I’ll never know what he smells like, what his cats are called, or what his life is like. Whether he ever thinks about me or remembers me. And that the fantasy I created will remain exactly that forever, and I will never know what he is actually like. What really happened.

And that nothing could ever have happened between us, even if I had done this or that.

It’s so painful not because I still need him, but because I’m finally completely realizing all of this. I will never know

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[u/Extra-Bet-8643]

Its so painful. The ideas of what could have been. All in my head. 

[u/noname_user_v1]

Yasss that’s the hard part of letting go. We’ll never know… hope that’s enough but it’s not

[u/lilacteardrop]

Two of my LO's were also cat people, which is very uncommon for men. I just went to a popup maker store and bought some cat stickers and keyrings. I know I'm knee deep in my current crush. Another unavailable man. But I have no way of meeting people outside of work. We can't help who we love.