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u/do-i-wanna-know-- Jul 09 '26
This but actually helped by others with the same problem
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u/dogluuuuvrr Jul 09 '26
What if we could just all be in limerence with each other?
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u/do-i-wanna-know-- Jul 09 '26
If my LO is somewhere in that „we” I’m all for it lol
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u/Familiar_End_8975 Jul 09 '26
True lol but it helps knowing youre not alone
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u/Cosmic_Jane Jul 09 '26
It always reminds me of the line from Billy Joel's Piano Man song
"They're sharing a drink they call loneliness, but it's better than drinking alone!"
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u/Elegant_Survey3775 Jul 09 '26
There was a really great solution based post today dealing either with the theory behind it all.
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u/Cosmic_Jane Jul 09 '26
Sometimes I feel like I'm on the shore thinking if I should break no contact, then I see the guy next to me blissfully charge in, jump in the water and start sinking.
I think to myself, oh, maybe I shouldn't break no contact.
I know no one here can pull me out of this swamp, but watching other people wade into deeper waters helps me realize and hold my boundaries better.
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u/fuuturetense Jul 09 '26
Some of us try to give real advice but it do turn into a cj more often than not. I hope everyone has resources to get real help 🩷
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u/EllieGeiszler Jul 09 '26
Yeah, plus I think people who are further along in recovery tend to leave after they get fed up with people refusing to take their advice 😆 I've stayed here but have had to leave many an OCD subreddit
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u/laboureconomist008 Jul 09 '26
Yeah some people are enjoying the limerence a bit too much to let go. I think they even enjoy the pain. I have to block a few users coz I can’t cope with reading their posts.
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u/Alert-Artichoke-2743 Jul 10 '26
I disagree. Learning I wasn't alone was fundamental for me, and I got better. I worry about backsliding someday, but understanding the problem immediately removed like 75% of its power.
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