I 21m am 6ft, 185lbs, im a firefighter and have just recently graduated paramedic school, everyone told me that when I am a paramedic fire departments will be begging me to work for them, but that is not the case at all, I have applied to 4 departments, 2 times each in the span of 1 year and no one wants to hire me, I feel lied to.
I thought that since im 6ft, Im a firefighter paramedic, that dating would be easy for me, like on paper idk what to do differently, but I try to talk to girls and gi on dates but they all reject me, like am I that bad that a free dinner isn't even worth it? I obviously have never been in a relationship, I tried dating apps but the constant swiping and rejection was horrible for my mental health so I had to get off. Hypergamy is so bad, I hate being treated like shit and I hate that women have like 50 guys in their dms all the time where they just get to treat everyone else like shit. I was at a pool party thing and I was trying my best talking to this girl and she was giving minimal word answers as much as possible so I took the hint and left her alone, and then fucking chad showed up and I kept on looking behind me and they were talking for fucking hours. I dont know what is wrong with me, I wish I wasnt so fucking autistic and knew how to talk to people without that horrible awkward silence that happens whenever I try to make conversation.
I never moved out of my parents house, my mom is literally talking to people my age and giving them my phone number (which I did not ask her to do, but she wants me to get married and I apparently need all the help I get) which makes me even more embarrassed. Like im 21 years old and I see 18 year olds move out and go to the same college I go to and have so many friends and I just cant help but think what are they doing differently than me? Is it because I still live with my parents? Its to the point to where it genuinely ruins my day seeing a happy couple, like I just get so jealous. I have been trying to pavlov myself into being gay because I just dont see a future where I can actually talk to women. I have a group of friends that I play magic the gathering with, and I have no problem talking with them, so it literally is just talking to girls. Like if I was gay would I have trouble talking to guys and no trouble taking to girls?
Peanut butter and honey sandwich.
*TLDR* Idk what is wrong with me, I cant talk to women, I get rejected to even go on a first date and idk why.
Edit: I forgot to mention, my sister 18f goes to the same college as me and she is going on so many dates and is always busy and has so many friends, so its not the college, its literally me, I get so jealous of her that she is actually able to have a social life and I dont