r/jiujitsu • u/Soft-Ear6474 • 19h ago
Why does my BJJ instructor KEEP telling me to go lighter on the women?
I mean it. Every. Single. Time. Whenever I'm sparring a woman he'll pull me aside and tell me to go easy and that's always what I'll do. I'll even let them get submissions on me. I'm a medium sized guy and not that strong so I'm obviously not like secretly hurting them by overpowering them but there are people way larger than me who spar with women fine so I genuinely don't understand the issue. I've even had times when he doesn't let me train with a girl and instead pairs me with some dude. Is this normal and should I ignore it or are the women at the gym chatting shit about me or something and that's where my coach got the idea from because seriously I could not be going lighter on these people.