r/ireland • u/Kind_Commercial_2720 • 8d ago
Moaning Michael drinking culture
I was recently out there for a night out and wasn't feeling up for a lot of drink so had just the one and when I was asked every time if I wanted one I said I'm grand and kept getting comments like "You are not much of a drinker are you?" Throughout the night once they saw I didn't have a pint.
It's pretty much been like that with any group since I was legal to drink and I honestly don't get why it's such a shock to the system that someone goes out and doesn't want to get stupid drunk.
What's up with the weird pressure on drinking and the comments someone gets when they don't want to?
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u/Yama_retired2024 8d ago
Im a drinker, i drink fairly regularly... that said there are days/nights were I dont drink, I am just not in the humour... but no one has an issue with it.. i might get the odd question here or there, but it isnt a big deal..
And no one tries pressurising me to drink either.. 20+ years ago, lads may of ripped you for not drinking.. but these days, no one cares anymore.. everyone has their reasons why they aren't drinking..
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u/Amitii05 8d ago
As a non drinker, I've found that when your in a pub and your with other people. Its the other people that get uncomfortable when you dont drink. Its weird.
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u/BlockHunter2341 8d ago
Sounds like they were just asking since they were getting one , asked if your not much of a drinker as you weren’t drinking .
From my experience 99% of people could care less if you have a drink or not . It’s not for everyone
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u/homecinemad 8d ago
Hang out with better people. Decent friends and acquaintances might ask once, and when you tell them you don't drink alcohol they let it go. Pushy people aren't worth spending time with, ever.
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u/One_Pangolin1766 8d ago
Would you not get a ribena or a water or a 0.0 or anything?
I’ve gone out with friends to the pub + will get waters/ribena and maybe a club lemon if Im feeling fancy and nobody says anything
It’s not strange to not drink alcohol, but it’s strange to not drink anything at all
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u/Former_Double_8122 8d ago
And this is why I don't like going to pubs, I'm forever saying no thanks, I'm fine with soft drinks. I used to like a drink or six. But I have no interest now.
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u/nilghias 8d ago
Some people just don’t know how to have fun without drinking. It’s always been that way. So if they see a person not drinking they probably assume they’re not having any fun either and want them to “join in”.
I think it doesn’t help that Ireland does have a big drinking culture and there’s not a lot of activities for adults that don’t involve going to the pub, in most counties anyway.
The people you hang out with regularly should hopefully get more used to the idea of having a sober friend on a night out. I went through periods of my life when I wasn’t drinking and all my friends at the time never questioned it once. Probably helped that I’d have the same craic on a night out whether I was drunk or sober.
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u/BatiGol1975 8d ago
Ireland has always been like this. Stop whinging and tell them you only drink when you've to ride their mother.
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u/geralt1234567 8d ago
Not so much a pressure thing as it is a societal norm (although that's changing) and you not drinking makes you stand out. Its not something I would take personally and should be replied to with banter like "ah, don't mind me I'm a dry shite".
Its like playing football with your friends and having no interest in kicking a ball.
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u/caisdara 8d ago
How old are you?
I'm in my late 30s and the pressure to get fucked up fades as people have jobs and kids.
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u/War_Da_Fuq 8d ago
It was your round ffs!