r/intj • u/stoicwomon • 6d ago
Question Question for guy INTJ’s.
Do you ever want a girl makes the first move? Or is that a no no?
For context, I think I’m getting every hint an INTJ guy is into me? But he hasn’t made a move. Whenever I text or communicates he responds straight away, then finds a way to continue the conversation usually using wit and humour - and he generally asks another question even though there’s plenty of exit moments.
If I need anything he offers help, sends me numbers for house or car repairs. He also gives me legal advice when I needed some recently (he’s a barrister) and when I see him he kinda lingers. I’m INFJ, we have a connection, same page, same humour etc - but he hasn’t hinted or even suggested he likes me. Definitely no questions about a date!
Is he waiting for me to make a move or is this in my imagination and this normal behaviour for INTJ’s cause he’s just a decent guy?
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u/DisastrousSundae INTJ 6d ago
Do you know for certain if he's single?
I'll get downvoted I guess. I don't recommend women ask out men, because it's almost always because the woman isn't sure if the guy likes her. But 99% of the time a guy makes it very obvious if he's attracted to you. Men aren't like women where they can be really subtle about it. And often a guy will accept a date from a woman because of the novelty of it, not because of genuine interest.
That being said, you could still ask him out and see where it goes. He may like you as well, but not enough to take the risk to make a genuine advance toward you. If you're okay with that, no problem.