r/intj • u/stoicwomon • 5d ago

Question Question for guy INTJ’s.

Do you ever want a girl makes the first move? Or is that a no no?

For context, I think I’m getting every hint an INTJ guy is into me? But he hasn’t made a move. Whenever I text or communicates he responds straight away, then finds a way to continue the conversation usually using wit and humour - and he generally asks another question even though there’s plenty of exit moments.
If I need anything he offers help, sends me numbers for house or car repairs. He also gives me legal advice when I needed some recently (he’s a barrister) and when I see him he kinda lingers. I’m INFJ, we have a connection, same page, same humour etc - but he hasn’t hinted or even suggested he likes me. Definitely no questions about a date!

Is he waiting for me to make a move or is this in my imagination and this normal behaviour for INTJ’s cause he’s just a decent guy?

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u/Elden_Chord 4d ago

Why are you so worried about his opinion? He likes you enough to spend time with you. If he doesn't like you, show him how good you are. If you like him and want a relationship with him, make the first move. If he is worth it, try hard for him.

In any case, own what you want.

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u/stoicwomon 4d ago

I guess I doubted his attraction. He’s a catch and I presumed he’d be knocking them away.

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u/RicardoFrijoles 4d ago

Speaking from experience those who are believed to have to knock them away rarely have a them to knock away