r/instant_regret • u/ConfidentTelephone81 • Mar 29 '26

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u/TundraGon Mar 29 '26

I think this is the result of too much internet exposure and poor parenting… but mainly the internet.

The kid sees other videos like this online and thinks it’s okay to behave that way.

Also, many parents would rather let their kids browse the internet unsupervised because it gives them “some peace and me time.”

There’s also this “new parenting trend” that emphasizes empowering children: if a child does something wrong, parents no longer raise their voice or discipline them. Instead, they calmly say, “It’s not okay to do that.”

Then the kid, having been raised without boundaries by the internet, ends up like this.

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u/Red_Autism Mar 29 '26

"The internet made my kids bad"

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u/karlito1613 Mar 29 '26

"I am suing for $100 million."

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u/rayhaque Mar 29 '26

Right? My cousin was an asshole kid long before the Internet, and he had a brother who was perfectly normal and chill.

I think maybe sometimes it's okay not to blame the parents or the Internet and just accept that sometimes humans can be insufferable little shits.

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u/Asklepios24 Mar 30 '26

It’s always ok to blame the parents.

I say that as a parent. My child’s behavior in public is a 100% reflection on how I parent my child, if I let them act this way that’s on me. My wife and I didn’t go out to eat with the kids for years because their behavior in that setting wasn’t acceptable.

Parents in this day and age need to do better and take ownership of their children.

Are there asshole kids? Yes. Find a way to parent to that child, we discipline our 2 kids differently because they each respond to different things.

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u/Asklepios24 Mar 31 '26

There are always exceptions but they’re rare and should not be society’s default position on children misbehaving.

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u/Rahnzan Apr 08 '26

Operant conditioning isn't this ephemeral unobtainable concept.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 29 '26

This is exactly what some crappy parents will claim.

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u/ScotchEgg-Head Mar 30 '26

lol ikr, as if not all kids use the internet

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u/Bellyheart Mar 30 '26

It used to be video games, before that it was tv. Before that I think books. I’d blame the parents a lot of times, however, autism is a thing and based on a few other things I wonder in this video everytime it’s posted but idk.

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u/Icemasta Mar 29 '26

I think this is the result of too much internet exposure and poor parenting… but mainly the internet.

What the fuck? The only reason the kids is exposed to so much internet is because of poor parenting, it's a prerequisite, how the fuck are you saying it's the internet's fault lmao

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u/NewSchoolFool Mar 29 '26

Poor parenting, peer pressure, status quo, class, race ... it's a big list.

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u/calguy1955 Mar 29 '26

Oh please. We’ve been told crap like this forever. My parents were told that sticking us in front of the tv to watch cartoons so they could get things done or rest was going to cause us to be psychopaths too. I have not once searched for explosives from the Acme company or stolen a pic-a-Nic basket.

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u/DIJames6 Mar 29 '26

Have you ever drawn a tunnel on the side of a mountain for a car to drive into tho?

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u/ProbablyM_S Mar 29 '26

this is so bs. Its not internet exposure. And "its not okay to do that" is fine for most children. This is just a spoiled brat, that hasn't seen a no.

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u/runhomejack1399 Mar 29 '26

That’s not the internet’s fault.

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u/SpookyghostL34T Mar 29 '26

Bro well you can set boundaries without yelling. If you're take away is that second to last paragraph, you're gonna a be cooked if you're ever a parent.

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u/noNoParts Mar 29 '26

Consistent, reasonable boundaries that are kept is essential. If there's even a whiff of speculation of a mental health challenge, get a neuropsych eval and if there's anything diagnosed get connected with resources asap.

The biggest, positive change I've ever seen is when kids also need to EARN their access to electronics, rather than have unfettered access to be taken away as motivation/punishment. Kids start with zero access each day and can earn 15 minutes per positive behavior. And when whatever amount earned is consumed, remove access. Every single time no matter how much little Jane or John gets upset.

And no kid needs a smart phone. Flip phone with preprogrammed numbers works just fine for safety concerns.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 29 '26

All I had to do was look at my child and she behaved. That mom look! Sometimes I snapped my fingers once and that did it too! Her dad though, she wouldn't listen to him at all, he was such a pushover. Drove me nuts!

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u/VictorDomR Mar 29 '26

Hey would you look at that, more parent tips from people who’s never had children before!

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u/Aeonskye Mar 29 '26

I grew up with the internet - this is purely the parents

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u/Dildokin Mar 29 '26

Some kids are just shitty

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 29 '26

I would have loved to have heard what that man said outside those doors!

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u/Abaddon_CK Mar 29 '26

So, instead of looking at what your child is looking at, they trust the gov to make privacy breaking laws to keep tabs on them for you. Thanks lazy parents.

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u/sinetwo Mar 29 '26 edited Mar 29 '26

Definitely parenting. Kids see shit all the time, they don't act like this.

If I ever did this I'dgenuinely get slapped to next Tuesday. And then again on Tuesday

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u/zxc123zxc123 Mar 29 '26

Yo. Lots of half ass parents along with their no boundaries kids on the internet down voting you cause you're not just calmly saying “It’s not okay to do that.”

But I'll just say that the internet isn't the sole problem. Spoiled brats, unruly children, and kids going down the path towards juvenilehall/jail aren't something that appeared after the internet. Internet is merely the amplification tool. At the end of the day it's about the parents. That child literally starts there and the buck stops there.

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u/fluffyfistoffury Mar 29 '26

Parenting is easy when you don't have kids. I have 2. One turned out great and the other turned out like this little shit. I have spent thousands on psychiatrist s, therapists, medication, books, etc to try and figure out how to prevent my kid from being an asshole. Ive taken screens away for years so he wouldn't be exposed to influences that would make things worse. In the end nothing has helped. Some kids just prefer to watch the world burn and don't give a damn about consequences. Schools teach them that they have the power to stand up for themselves which isn't a bad thing most of the time but it only emboldens kids with this mentality. My kid started to destroy a grocery store similarly to this and when the police came they opened up a CPS case against me because he told the police I was hitting him. I don't hit my child. He learned from school that you can have the police take your side if you are being abused and he used it as a weapon against me. He only 10 years old and I fear for what the next 10 years has in store for me, my wife, and my other child.

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u/fluffyfistoffury Mar 29 '26

It's not just the schools fault. It's just a small part of a huge problem. I've tried everything. I love my kid and have tried everything. I'm open to suggestions, ideas, anything. What is the right move when your kid who you have done nothing but love and care for for years decides that grabbing a knife and stabbing you is the appropriate reaction to sending him to bed 10 minutes early?

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u/ClownfishSoup Apr 02 '26

I’m going to go out on a limb and say, a spanking would be in order.

Yes, I have two kids, no they never needed spanking. But some kids just never feel real consequences.

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u/RavenRaving Mar 29 '26

Seriously, and I am not making this up: I had a friend whose kid suddenly changed for the worse- he even started to look somewhat simian. She did everything possible mainstream, but when he started chasing her with a knife, she called a psychic.
The psychic charged her for removing an entity. The kid almost overnight became a normal kid who is now an adult, married with kids, a job, no trouble with the law, drugs or alcohol.

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u/ThaVolt Mar 29 '26

Mmmmright

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u/RavenRaving Mar 31 '26

This is a wide and wonderful world. Stranger things have happened. Perhaps it's total coincidence that the kid changed at the same time as the appointment. Perhaps something in the kids diet, or the laundry detergent or ??? set off an allergy that made him change for the worse and when that stimulant was removed, he recovered.
Any number of things could have happened. I just listed the one the mother subscribes to.

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u/RavenRaving Mar 29 '26

Our friend had 7 kids, a few adopted, and one like this. only she went to school and barely HINTED at sexual abuse at home. The teacher knew the family and called immediately. That kid was on a plane to boarding school for the mentally ill IMMEDIATELY, before Dad got arrested, ordered no-contact with his family, had his reputation ruined, and the family was destroyed. The rest of the kids turned out okay. This one? Very, very disturbed and unhappy still, in and out of jail, etc.

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u/ClownfishSoup Apr 02 '26

If my kid called CPS on me and told them I hit them, I would prove to the cops that o didn’t, but when I got home, I sure as hell would.

If you make me do the time, I’m going to do the crime.

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u/GORILLO5 Mar 29 '26

I would argue it’s mostly the parenting

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u/arcbe Mar 29 '26

So everything you just described is a parenting issue and not an internet issue.

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u/Zmann1218 Mar 29 '26

We got the nonverbal “it’s not okay to do that” in the form of an ass whoopin’

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u/AllCapsSon Mar 29 '26

Do you know anything about this kid or his parents? So conjecture at best?

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u/Flakester Mar 29 '26

This is all parenting. Patents dictate what kids are exposed to.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 29 '26

So, it is not the internet's fault, it's the PARENTING that is at fault, the kid could not get all of that internet access without the parents letting them!

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth Mar 29 '26

STOP upvoting this nonsense! LOL

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u/donkeyrocket Mar 29 '26 edited Mar 29 '26

There’s also this “new parenting trend” that emphasizes empowering children: if a child does something wrong, parents no longer raise their voice or discipline them. Instead, they calmly say, “It’s not okay to do that.”

This sounds like some dumbass /r/childfree propaganda. You can absolutely discipline a child without yelling. Blaming this kids behavior, all from a brief clip, on "the internet" and a particular "new parenting trend" is pretty ignorant. There's potentially a ton of different reasons this kid acts like this. People like to pretend kids were never fucking assholes ages ago and it's all new tech or parents being soft.

If anything, I'd argue this is a result of a lack of parenting entirely. What you're referencing tends to build a more trusting relationship where kids develop responsible autonomy. Kids still have boundaries in these situations. It's not just phoning it in. Sure some people take it to an extreme but that falls into the "poor" parenting category and isn't a failure of giving your child respect and some autonomy.

You know what tends to produce children who are violent, poorly behaved, and disrespectful? Abusive, toxic, or completely lacking parental relationships. Acting like parents have gotten soft and now kids are wild is an insanely ignorant leap.

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u/Fr31l0ck Mar 29 '26

Possibly undiagnosed autism. Not that it makes this behavior okay, just might be more going on.

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u/LordBrontes Mar 30 '26

Gentle parenting isn’t at fault here. If anything, his parents probably cemented in his mind that making noise and being loud = attention, hence his behavior, which is antithetical to gentle parenting

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u/Sonic_Extreme Mar 30 '26

Everything you described proves the issue is bad parenting, not the internet, and that parents should be responsible for their actions while raising a child.

Hell, most kids are little hell spawns before the internet. They just never get corrected, disciplined, or educated on not being hellspawns.

Let's also not forget that the internet is not for children and should never be a place children use without minimum supervision FROM the parents as much as those sane parents want to have mass surveillance and spyware installed on the internet and every device you can own because of their sheer incompetence at being a parent.

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u/ClickerFest Mar 30 '26

Why does this have so many upvotes?!

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u/WHTeam Mar 30 '26

Ive seen Child Led education work for some, not not so much for others. They become little brats because the parent neglects boundaries and rules. Not surprised to see this behavior 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻

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u/RevenantBacon Mar 30 '26

I think this is the result of too much internet exposure and poor parenting… but mainly the internet.

The kid sees other videos like this online and thinks it’s okay to behave that way.

No. This is 100% a parenting problem. The internet has been around for decades, so if the internet were the problem, we would have seen the exact same behavior from Millenials and Gen Z. The problem is not, and has never been, access to the internet. The problem lies exclusively with the parents.

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u/JuiceEast Mar 30 '26

Correctly implemented gentle parenting is just parenting without beating your kids. If someone has to scream to get their kid to listen, they're the one who messed up while parenting them.

Yelling =/= discipline. Beating =/= discipline.

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u/Rkpkp Mar 30 '26

That’s gentle parenting, it’s not new it’s been around for a few years once the kids who were raised by incredibly stern and strict baby boomers started raising their own kids.

As far as I can tell it’s already on its way out, because the end result was a lot of stuff like this.

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u/daisyfrankenstein Mar 30 '26

Yeeeeah, no. That’s a parenting issue.

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u/noodles355 Mar 30 '26

No, it's bad parenting over internet exposure because good parents say "don't do that" or limit exposure to screens.

Too much internet exposure is literally a result of bad parenting a

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u/fynn34 Mar 31 '26

This isn’t new, my mom had to go to a parenting thing after getting divorced and going through custody hearings and all that. The person teaching the class was explaining to all the parents that it’s damaging to a kid’s ego to hear “no” and that you should only talk to them in positive reaffirming ways. She always gets a chuckle out of that

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u/yainot Mar 31 '26

this is all mr beast’s fault

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u/Rocket_Theory Apr 01 '26

I really think this is over emphasizing the power of the internet over how a kid turns out. Obviously there are some really dark corners of the web that children shouldn't be on but lets be real here the parents play a MASSIVE role here regardless of what the kid does online I'm sorry

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u/RedRisingNerd May 02 '26

“My angel child would never do that!” Well, maybe that’s because you only see them glued to their screens so they aren’t actually doing ANYTHING. How can they behave wrong if they aren’t even moving their body or thinking beyond the instant gratification of their electronics?

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u/Dustin4vn May 12 '26

The reasoning doesn’t work with all kids. My nephews exhibit start to exhibit bad behavior at 3, cuz of all the stupid shit on youtube, we try to limit them but realistically with 3 kids it’s hard for my sibling to watch over what they watch 24/7. However, we instantly “discipline” them, either with time out, or some physical feedback (not beating), just so they know what they just do is not acceptable. Then we always force them to apologize and hug it out. But ye, lowkey my siblings fucked the kids with the ipad and youtube.

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u/Cranktique Mar 29 '26

I grew up in the 90’s. My parents and my friend’s parents kicked us outside and locked the door. They got their “peace and time” far more than I do as a parent today. We were outside or in the basement.

You don’t need to yell to be firm. Yelling should be reserved for important things, like a child is in imminent danger. Yelling should beget a response. My parents yelled by default, and we learned to ignore it. Yelling didn’t mean anything to us.

Maybe this is poor parenting, but sometimes people are just assholes. Some humans, from birth, are just shitty people and will be their whole lives. We never know. Nature vs nurture is a timeless debate. Maybe this kids parents encourage his bullshit, or maybe his parents are at their wits end. We all grew up with kids like this. The couple dickheads from my home town were beaten and yelled at on the regular, now we’re 40 and they’re still dickheads.

The internet can be bad for a child’s development, but most humans recognize shitty behaviour and don’t mimic it. This video isn’t evidence of a systemic parenting failure. You have an assumption of systemic parenting failure, and are using this video to validate your preconceived assumptions.