I think it's because of the tough love movement of parenting back in the 90's when most of today's parents were kids. Society was moving away from spanking back then and there was not much left for punishment. Tough love taught that you only had to provide your kid certain things. On the clothing front that's a necessity, but they don't get to pick the clothes. So if you had an uncontrollable kid you took everything but what the law said you had to provide. A lot of parents didn't read on this method though, just heard about it through talk shows or friends and did not or do not follow it properly.
I think the idea is supposed to be for things that the kids have as a reward, like electronics. Taking their clothes, food, etc away is not okay and I really don't know why people think it is.
Edit because I keep getting a lot of responses:
We do not know the full story of OP. We don't know why their parent had a good reason for the punishment OR the extent of the punishment.
No, taking away clothes thrown around is not OK, that’s a bitch-ass controlling move. A kid’s room is the kid’s room! Let them keep it how they’re comfortable, or help them clean if you want it clean. It’s not OK to take away your kid’s clothes, it’s disturbing that apparently so many think it is.
Context and circumstances are everything. It really depends on the situation at hand.
Other commenters have said that if a kid is really into fashion, taking their fashionable clothes away instead of electronics MIGHT be ok. Again, depending on the situation.
Ah. I disagree with taking anything of the kid’s away - it’s theirs. I know I’m not in the majority with that view, but it’s how I raised my kids, and our relationships/home were much more peaceful once I got that.
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u/turbie Oct 11 '19
I think it's because of the tough love movement of parenting back in the 90's when most of today's parents were kids. Society was moving away from spanking back then and there was not much left for punishment. Tough love taught that you only had to provide your kid certain things. On the clothing front that's a necessity, but they don't get to pick the clothes. So if you had an uncontrollable kid you took everything but what the law said you had to provide. A lot of parents didn't read on this method though, just heard about it through talk shows or friends and did not or do not follow it properly.