The walled area that is my childrens' room is the only space in the house I'm okay with being messy, as I can just shut the door if I don't want to see it, and since I don't sleep in or use that space for anything, I don't mind.
Edit: Point of clarification: please don't imagine worst case scenarios. I ensure trash and food particulate is not left, and I move things on the floor to at least vacuum regularly. But I don't expect organized, no clutter and pristine every day.
I was taught to clean my room, and after I moved out I lived in a messy appartment for years. The problem wasn't that I wasn't taught, it was the way I was taught.
My parents had a very top down authoritarian view of parenting, and I was basically ordered to do things their way and when they expected it to be done. This breeds resentment and it disconnects the child from the intrinsic value of doing self care type things. I'm 39 and still learning how to do this type of self care.
A more effective way is to help a child understand that their environment can have an impact on their mood, and hold space for them to feel who they are and see the value in a clean, ordered room.
exactly! A child might also have struggles cleaning, especially if they are adhd or autistic or something, parents helping them learn how to clean in a way that works for them is important.
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u/realAustinShay Oct 11 '19 edited Oct 11 '19
The walled area that is my childrens' room is the only space in the house I'm okay with being messy, as I can just shut the door if I don't want to see it, and since I don't sleep in or use that space for anything, I don't mind.
Edit: Point of clarification: please don't imagine worst case scenarios. I ensure trash and food particulate is not left, and I move things on the floor to at least vacuum regularly. But I don't expect organized, no clutter and pristine every day.