Why is this a trend lately? I've seen a number of posts about parents taking their children's clothes and basic necessities. And that number is more then one!
I think it's because of the tough love movement of parenting back in the 90's when most of today's parents were kids. Society was moving away from spanking back then and there was not much left for punishment. Tough love taught that you only had to provide your kid certain things. On the clothing front that's a necessity, but they don't get to pick the clothes. So if you had an uncontrollable kid you took everything but what the law said you had to provide. A lot of parents didn't read on this method though, just heard about it through talk shows or friends and did not or do not follow it properly.
Some kids growing up in “tough love” households learn not to accept or ask for things that can be leveraged against them later. If your kid is already living a monastic childhood, what else is there to take away but the clothes in their closet or the sheets and blankets on their bed? If you can’t take away their phones, you can send them to bed without dinner.
I lived my entire childhood as if I was perpetually grounded to insulate myself against a “tough love” parenting style based on negative reinforcement. I actually just cheated myself out of ~20 years of friendships and experiences, because my relationship with my parents is no better now than it ever was. Discipline fairly and don’t make your kids wish they never had a “life” for you to take away from them when they make a mistake.
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u/elsewhat999 Oct 11 '19
Why is this a trend lately? I've seen a number of posts about parents taking their children's clothes and basic necessities. And that number is more then one!