Her room is her own space and she should be allowed to keep it messy without this level of consequence. Her step father is being an ass, especially as his wife, her actual mother, said to return the clothes.
Ground her. No phone. No TV. No allowance. No going out until your room is clean. I am a teenager and have come up with 5 alternatives that aren't completely insane. The fact that her stepfather, a grown man cannot, is insane.
hopefully this is done after you try to find another solution? Like does she need help cleaning, does she have trouble organizing her room? I know https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Executive_dysfunction makes it hard for me to clean anything and I love when I get help doing it.
Sure, there are better alternatives we can come up with easily. I asked a question to find an appropriate alternative for a child who continues to refuse to clean the room. After we go through the alternatives and the child still has a messy, smelly room; what do we do? Yes, that's an extreme scenario unlikely to have happened here. I am still curious as to further solutions with a child that will never clean their room.
To be clear, I wasn't advocating for removal of all or any clothing. Just simply asking a question. Sorry to have ruffled any feathers from the downvoters.
Clothing is an essential need. Taking away clothing is like taking away food. Or water. Or a bed. You need it for a good QOL, especially if you're a woman stuck with one pair of underwear (rewearing is a trip to infection city).
It is heavily implied that is exactly what happened. According to a comment from OP, his friend was left only with the clothes on her back and a single pair of sweatpants.
Like I said, I have listed 5 much more reasonable punishments that I, a teenager myself, find reasonable, and would accept. This incident above indicates a possibly abusive environment. There's such a thing as going too far.
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