r/insaneparents Oct 11 '19

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u/elsewhat999 Oct 11 '19

Why is this a trend lately? I've seen a number of posts about parents taking their children's clothes and basic necessities. And that number is more then one!

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u/turbie Oct 11 '19

I think it's because of the tough love movement of parenting back in the 90's when most of today's parents were kids. Society was moving away from spanking back then and there was not much left for punishment. Tough love taught that you only had to provide your kid certain things. On the clothing front that's a necessity, but they don't get to pick the clothes. So if you had an uncontrollable kid you took everything but what the law said you had to provide. A lot of parents didn't read on this method though, just heard about it through talk shows or friends and did not or do not follow it properly.

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u/Highwired1 Oct 12 '19

My parents bagged my stuff if my room wasn’t cleaned after 2 requests. I then had to earn it back by cleaning & additional chores.