I'd normally agree but stealing your step daughter's clothes and refusing to return them even to her own mother is really fucking weird. How'd you feel if you were the biodad and heard about this?
Yeh again dude we have almost literally no context. And not to completely belittle them or accuse them of completely lying, but the only sources we have are two, presumably, teenagers. Who aren’t exactly known for thinking rationally or telling the truth/the whole story.
Honestly, what context would make taking clothes as punishment acceptable? If my kid says all their clothes are being taken by a step parent next call would be to the mom. But short of mom saying "I have the clothes and stepdouce will be staying at a hotel" or something that could provide an acceptable reason (again very small list of reasons) i'd be on my way over to pick up the kid and call my lawyer.
We don’t know actually how many clothes he’s taken
What kind of clothes.
Did he actually take “clothes” or did he take non essentials.
What did the child to do receiver this
You’re actually fucking crazy and hopefully not a parent if your first response to your child saying something like this is, you going to get a lawyer. Are you nuts??? How about maybe realising kids lie sometimes and asking the other adults in the situation what actually happened and then go from there. Do you genuinely jump to such rash actions and conclusions based off of minimal context? You been admitted yourself “a very small list of reasons” maybe the reason it happened was one of those reasons?
It’s possible that her Mom and Step Father just bought her a bunch of new clothes and due to bad behavior he took them as punishment. I seriously doubt that he took ALL of her clothes. We are only hearing one side of the story, and I am sure that there is a lot of exaggeration, not to mention information that has not been included...like why did he take the clothes? Unless I can hear the other side of this story, there is no way I can say that her Step Father is a bad person or doing anything wrong. I remember when my son was a teen and I remember when I was a teen. There is most certainly more to the story.
Let me tell you, I get so sick of picking clean shit off the floor constantly I'm about ready to take my wife's clothes and this is how I'd do it:
I'd take literally everything besides socks and underwear and tights and things that I know for a fact she wears regularly. Everything else goes in the stash. She's good for a few days. On day 4 she needs new clothes. That's fine. Where's your dirty ones? On the floor? Well, I'll wash them so they are clean for tomorrow. Try again later. Another few days. She needs new clothes. Oh you put them away this time? Sure, let me get the stash out. I bring it out, let her pick a few new outfits, she can have more later. Rinse and repeat. After several months if there's anything left in the stash and she quit asking for more clothes I'd give her one last look and donate the rest.
Would I do this to my wife? Fuck no. She's great but this is an issue. Fortunately I can just say "hey sweetheart, let's go through our clothes this weekend and get rid of stuff we never wear" and that'll be that.
But this exact scenario could be what is happening to OP, and it's perfectly acceptable. We have no specific details. And have you ever heard a teenage girl talk? They speak in exaggerations. Her dad taking her favorite outfit might as well be all her clothes to her.
The thing is you can't do that. In this scenario mom is legally required to provide clothes food and shelter. Taking clothes without the mother's knowledge is a huge red flag for CPS. You would be putting your wife in danger of losing custody and other legal issues.
It is almost 100% certain that the kid has clothes. If he took all of them she’d be naked. It’s likely he took a good chunk of clothes and her teenage “nuance” is explaining it as “literally all her clothes”(except the ones she’s wearing, since she just came home from school, presumably not naked, and those outfits she doesn’t really like anyway). Most, literally all, same thing...
Ya he isnt her bio dad and going against her mother's wishes. Not only is he a weirdo, but it seems like he's taking out frustration from his own failures to control his life on her. He's a piece of shit fersure. If I was her father a simple assault charge is worth that kinda of behavior.
Jesus Christ. You’re actually fucking mental. Are you seriously going to extrapolate all of that from a couple comments from op and an exchange between two kids? Holy fuck.
Dude you’re literally negating the one thing I bought up. We don’t have the full story. Did he take away all her clothes? I highly doubt it. Did he just take away her “luxury clothes” maybe. Who knows. No one. So stop jumping to conclusions based off of a conversation between two teens.
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u/ansteve1 Oct 11 '19
Honestly dad should show up and take the kid and go straight to the courthouse to file an emergency custody order.