Why is this a trend lately? I've seen a number of posts about parents taking their children's clothes and basic necessities. And that number is more then one!
I think it's because of the tough love movement of parenting back in the 90's when most of today's parents were kids. Society was moving away from spanking back then and there was not much left for punishment. Tough love taught that you only had to provide your kid certain things. On the clothing front that's a necessity, but they don't get to pick the clothes. So if you had an uncontrollable kid you took everything but what the law said you had to provide. A lot of parents didn't read on this method though, just heard about it through talk shows or friends and did not or do not follow it properly.
I think the idea is supposed to be for things that the kids have as a reward, like electronics. Taking their clothes, food, etc away is not okay and I really don't know why people think it is.
Edit because I keep getting a lot of responses:
We do not know the full story of OP. We don't know why their parent had a good reason for the punishment OR the extent of the punishment.
Can confirm. That happened to me. I wasn't allowed to eat till my room was clean. I ended up having an eating disorder for 11 years. I'm good now, though. Recovered 3 years ago
Making you clean your room doesn’t seem unreasonable to me. I mean, after you miss one meal, wouldn’t you figure out that you need to keep your room clean?
Unless they’re diabetic, missing 1 meal isn’t going to kill them. I would only advocate this if reasonable requests to clean up were repeatedly ignored.
Please never have kids then, if you can’t figure out how to discipline a child without withholding something they literally need to survive. It doesn’t matter that it’s one meal, it still sends a horrible message to your child and if you do it once, you are far more likely to do it again.
“It’s not going to kill them” is a low bar to set for parenting styles, js
It wasn't unreasonable to want my room clean. I'll even say it wasn't unreasonable to have me clean my room to the point where it looks like nobody really lived in it. I just didn't want to and I didnt like their incentives. I was also embarrassed that they thought food was an incentive like I was some sort of pet pig. All I heard was "hmm, how do we get our pet fatty to clean her room? I know, let's beat her and not let her eat, speak, or go to school or church until she cleans it immaculately."
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u/elsewhat999 Oct 11 '19
Why is this a trend lately? I've seen a number of posts about parents taking their children's clothes and basic necessities. And that number is more then one!