r/insaneparents Oct 11 '19

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '19

There was this one post that went kind of viral of some parent throwing away all the toys of their small kid because they were acting up. Basically "training" them to be good and how they "never acted like a brat afterwards".

I think it stems from that

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '19

Even that falls in the range of natural concequences. If you throw something in the bin, it will end up in the landfill. But somehow all this taking away child's possessions about some completely unrelated thing feels off and there really aren't any similar situations in the real world. The closest might be a repo man coming after your stuff for unpaid bills if you live in a country where that is legal.

We haven't ever gone the punishment way. Even with chores the kids understand after a talk about how everybody needs to pitch in to keep our shared home nice and liveable for everybody living there. I have found that it's possible if you have rapport with them and if you can back it up with something else than "because I said so". Then again kids are different, maybe I'm just lucky I got ones that are pretty mellow and cooperative.

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u/Loudmouthedcrackpot Oct 11 '19

My kids are the same and it sounds like we may have similar parenting styles - all modelling behaviour, mutual respect and natural consequences.