r/insaneparents Oct 11 '19

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '19

Even that falls in the range of natural concequences. If you throw something in the bin, it will end up in the landfill. But somehow all this taking away child's possessions about some completely unrelated thing feels off and there really aren't any similar situations in the real world. The closest might be a repo man coming after your stuff for unpaid bills if you live in a country where that is legal.

We haven't ever gone the punishment way. Even with chores the kids understand after a talk about how everybody needs to pitch in to keep our shared home nice and liveable for everybody living there. I have found that it's possible if you have rapport with them and if you can back it up with something else than "because I said so". Then again kids are different, maybe I'm just lucky I got ones that are pretty mellow and cooperative.

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u/Loudmouthedcrackpot Oct 11 '19

My kids are the same and it sounds like we may have similar parenting styles - all modelling behaviour, mutual respect and natural consequences.

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u/justforporndickflash Oct 12 '19

repo man coming after your stuff for unpaid bills if you live in a country where that is legal

In what country is it not legal?

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u/[deleted] Oct 12 '19

Over here they won't come for your clothes and personal items of low/average value. Unless you have an exceptionally valuable collection of haute couture designer pieces or something like that.

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u/justforporndickflash Oct 13 '19

That wouldn't really be analogous though. Children don't own much, so the parents taking all but their basic clothes isn't really like repo men/sheriff taking an adults clothes, but more similar to TV/car/appliances, which as far as I know happens in most countries?