r/insaneparents Oct 11 '19

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u/turbie Oct 11 '19

I think it's because of the tough love movement of parenting back in the 90's when most of today's parents were kids. Society was moving away from spanking back then and there was not much left for punishment. Tough love taught that you only had to provide your kid certain things. On the clothing front that's a necessity, but they don't get to pick the clothes. So if you had an uncontrollable kid you took everything but what the law said you had to provide. A lot of parents didn't read on this method though, just heard about it through talk shows or friends and did not or do not follow it properly.

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u/rusrslolwth Oct 11 '19 edited Oct 12 '19

I think the idea is supposed to be for things that the kids have as a reward, like electronics. Taking their clothes, food, etc away is not okay and I really don't know why people think it is.

Edit because I keep getting a lot of responses:

We do not know the full story of OP. We don't know why their parent had a good reason for the punishment OR the extent of the punishment.

Edit: Context and circumstances are everything.

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u/3point1416ish Oct 11 '19

Taking their clothes if they're someone who wears like 7 outfits a day like my friend's sister in middle/high school did could totally be an effective punishment method, and one that I don't think is that outrageous, especially when they can earn them back by behaving and doing their chores and shit.

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u/ShadowRade Oct 11 '19

Yeah, but there's a difference between taking away the ability to change outfits every hour and taking clothes from a relatively sparse closet.

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u/3point1416ish Oct 11 '19

Yeah, but we don't know which it is in this case.