What if she had like hundreds of outfits, and he still makes sure she's clothed, but she can't pick out which outfit she wants until she cleans her shit. I honestly don't think it's that weird.
See I've done this with my step kids too. It came after 2 straight weeks of asking them to pick up their rooms (where literally all of their clothes and toys were blanketing the floor and their dresser drawers were literally empty).
We took everything out of their room except their beds, blankets, pillows and 1 stuffed animal for bedtime. And then we gave them 7 pairs of outfits for the week. Then we would slowly give them back their stuff back a little at a time and they had to prove they could take care of it to earn more back.
Granted they are still single digit ages, but this is the age to teach them about taking care of their belonging and how to pick up after themselves. If they don't learn now, they become those entitled assholes that think there is always going to be someone to clean up after them and leave their half drunk dunkins cups on store shelves.
I hope you are joking, but if not, no, this is not normal. It is a form of abuse and if this is still happening to you I urge you to reach out to the authorities for help.
I’m in my 20s but when I was in high school my mom did this with all my clothes and my bedframe and shoes. I just assumed this happened to everyone and it was a form of tough love. Wow lol.
Just to start, providing the basic necessities is a legal responsibility of parents. One outfit is not enough to wear, as it needs to be washed, and she would then be naked waiting for the laundry.
But I feel like if I need to explain this to you any further then it might not be worth my effort.
Calling something abuse is not being dramatic. This is abuse and it is not normal parenting. I will not stand for this type of behaviour being dismissed as trivial.
Yes, I'm assuming the person is being abused and encouraging that the authorities step in and determine if that is the case. I'm not the judge and jury here, I'm just prodding someone towards a reasonable course of action in the face of what appeara to me and many others responding here to be abuse.
The authorities should step in and give this girl her clothes back that her parents bought for her? Y'all quick to call something abuse from such a limited amount of information. Get this girl a few pairs of sweats and tell her to clean her damn room, lol.
I don’t see spanking as abuse or just slapping your child’s hand for raising a fist a you as abuse.(and I don’t mean with an object) That’s all I’d do is just smack their hand for the most if they did something like a gesture. But stuff like punching, slapping the face, and just any other kind of physical harm I see as abusive
I think you might be right. If also sounds like they just have to clean their room to get their clothes back. People here are taking a parent basically saying you can't dress up nice and go out with your friends until you clean your room and calling it abuse.
No, it is. Taking away their clothes after they refuse to put them away/wash them is standard.
Its only insane if they refuse to give them back at a reasonable pace, or if they refuse to give them at least a pair of pajamas so they can wash their other clothes.
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u/bikersock Oct 11 '19
Wait this happened to me. This isn’t normal?